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(a) the growth of fable : forever do a

grow an apple tree apple tree, and finally the result.
the first year, which bring an end to ... with 10 apples, 9 were taken away, they receive one. In response, angry apple trees, then mowing off, in turn, refused to grow. The next year, it bears a 5 apples, 4 were taken away, they receive one.
However, it can do: continue to grow. For example, the second year, it bears the 100 fruit, 90 were taken away, they receive 10.
is possible, it is taken away 99, they receive one. But no material, it can continue to grow fruit the third year-end 1000 ... ...
fact, how many fruit is not the most important. The most important thing is the tree to grow! Such as apple trees grow into towering trees, those who have hindered its growth will be languid to negligible power. Really, do not worry so many about the fruit, the growth is the most important. Psychological Review】 【

you are not a meridian of the work has since broken family?
started work, you talented, high-spirited, I trust that But the reality soon kick a few of your Sap, perhaps, you made a great contribution for the unit that no one seriously; perhaps, but not only by verbal emphasis on affordable; perhaps ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their own to enjoy only a small part, and falls far short of your expectations.
So, you are petulant, upset you, do you grumble ... ... In the end, you decide not to work so hard, to do to match their own earnings. After the elapse few years, as you reflect on that now you have not just the work of passion and aptitude of the time.
But the marrow is that you have stopped growing.
such stories abound around us.
why make such mistakes, because we forget that life is a cruise, a entire, we think we have grown over, now is the time of the fruit. We too care about temporary gains and losses, and forget the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of self-off passages. We stand prepared to give up doing so, continue to move toward growth way.
Remember: If you are a working team, met do not understand management, management or peccadillo management savage boss or corporate mores,GHD MK4 Kiss Straighteners, then, to caution ourselves about, do not disgruntled because of the anger and the self-off passages. No matter what, have to do an apple tree will never grow because you always grow important than how much money each month.

(b) the motivation of the parable: the child in whom a group of children playing

frolic in front of an elderly, sounds a large deal. Over the past few days, the elderly unbearable.
So he came out to 25 cents for each child, said to them: elated, the next day is still coming, as always, playfulness. Come out to the retired and gave each child 15 pence. He unraveled that he had no income, only a small to some. It also can be 15 cents, kid are still happily away.
the third day, the antique male gave only 5 cents for each child.
children with exasperation, Psychological Review】 【

whom you .
two types of human motivation: internal motivation and external motivation. If the internal motivation to act in consensus with, we are masters of their own. If we are pedaled at external motivation, we will be swayed at external elements to become enslaved by it.
In this fable, the enumeration is simple for the elderly, who will the children's internal motivation factors, so it operated the children's behavior. Fables of the elderly, a lot like your boss, boss? And cents, like not like your wages, bonuses and other kinds of external rewards?
as a reference,GHD IV Dark Straighteners, such as coordinates of the external evaluation, our sentiments can lightly fluctuate. Because we can not control external factors, it is effortless to deviate from our internal expectations, let us dissatisfied, let us grumble. Gripe and let negative emotions such as pain, in order to reduce the pain, we had to reduce the internal expectations, the most common method is to reduce the work effort.
A person can manner an external evaluation system, the most important reason is that parents like to control him. Parents too rather to use verbal rewards and disciplines, matter stimuli and other control children, not to bypass the child's own motivation. Over time, the children have forgotten their elemental motives, what are the external evaluation of care. School, he has forgotten the native motivation for knowledge --- curiosity and joy of learning; work, he forgot the original motivation of the work --- the joy of growth, the evaluation of superiors and income fluctuations into his work the largest source of happiness and pain.
Remember: the external appraisal system is constantly a home history, but you can destroy it, by and by cultivating their own inner evaluation system, to study and work into a

(c) Planning fable: a chip of periodical folded 51 times

Imagine your hands are a big enough white. Now, your task is to fold it 51 times. So, How high?
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a skyscraper so lofty? No, a big alteration, the thickness more than the distance among Earth and the Sun. Psychological Review】 【


to now, I get asked a dozen people in this fable, only two people said that this may be an unimaginable height, while others think of the height of the highest That is a tall skyscraper.
folded height of 51 such dread, but if it were not for the 51 pearly paper stacked together?
This compare made many people feel shocked. Because there is no direction, lack of planning in life, like the 51 White simple stacked. Doing this today,GHD Blue Straighteners, tomorrow little morsel of that, each time there is no link between efforts. In this way, even if each work is done very well, they have your whole life is nothing but a simple superposition.
, of way, life is extra difficult than this story. Some human, life finds a simple instruction and firmly to do so, they reached the additional end of life unattainable elevation. For instance, I have a friend for your life is English, he spent more than a decade efforts, only the memory of the word reached the amount of ten million and more, at this point to approach the mean human can not mate the height.
some people, and their direction in life is also very clear, for instance, to start a company foreman,GHD Benefit Straighteners, so they absence a lot of capabilities --- capabilities, management skills, communication skills, decision-making skills and so on. They may attempt doing this in the opening, and try doing that, none is especially skilled, but in the end, open the enterprise boss in the direction of these seemingly strewed the before integration efforts together, which is a kinds of intricate folding in life, prefer than simply additive.
Remember: the power of sight more useful than the hidden forces.
Now, the popular area to find the response from the unseen, such as the latent development, such as Success, that we rely on some marvel of life can be saved. However, in my attitude, Counseling Center, Dongguan Heng Yuan consultant Mao Zhengjiang more correctly, avoid the fables: feline escape the shadow of the cheats

, Tom and Toby base, as long as the sun seemed, they will penetrate namely they are crazy for their own eclipse.
However, Tom and Toby finally have found their own solutions. Tom is always close their eyes. Approach is to Toby, always linger in the shadows of other things.

【Comments】
mental note of this fable, a little mental problem is how to become more psychological problems.
can say that all psychological problems are derived from the distortion of the facts. What facts? We effectively those suffering negate accidents.
because of the pain experience, we do not want to face the negative memorabilia. However, once happened, negative memorabilia that is destined to be with us for life, we can do them up but is quelled into the subconscious to go, this is the so-called forgotten.
However, their subconscious will still continue to play a role. And, even if we have forgotten the fact that powerful repeatedly, the pain related with these facts would still attack us, let us somehow sad, and can not be inhibited. This pain Let us further effort to escape.
development to the end, the usual solution is to these two: either, as we like the cat Tom and completely distorting their experience of life in all the important facts are ignored negative; or, we, like cat care than as, simply combine their suffering, his own everything were very bad, since everything is so bad, that make their most sad event is not so original pain.
smokes cerebral hospital consultant, said Li Ling, 99% of drug consumers had a painful experience. The reason they did drugs to make themselves to escape the pain. It's like conceal in the shadows, painful truth is a monster, the demon in order to avoid this, simply to sell itself to a greater demon. There are many alcoholism
adults, they have had an alcoholic and abusive dad, dad survive a lot of torture. To forget the pain, they learn the same way. In adding to these visible
erroneous way, we humans have contrived a heap of a heap of ways to escape suffering, Freud referred to these methods of psychological barricade mechanisms. Too painful, these barricade mechanisms is needful, but worse, if the deformation of the facts of psychological barricade mechanism is so intense, it will take a more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disarray, social anxiety disarray, multiple identity, or even schizophrenia.
actually only one way to reach a healthy --- face the pain. Facing the pain would obtain a lot from the pain of abrupt gains, they will eventually become the life of the celebration of asset.
Remember: shadow and light, as are the wealth of life.
one of the most important psychological statute is, no matter how bitter, you are no escape. You can only go gallant face it and decide it, beyond it, and it finally reached a settlement. If you own a temporary shortage of power, you can detect help, find friends and relatives for help, or quest vocational help, companion you confidence with you to face the pain.
Rogers, American psychologist, was the most lonesome person, but when he resolved to face this fact and after he became a true master of interpersonal relationships; American psychologist Frank has a brutal and alcoholic stepfather and a wrong mama, but when he challenges the fact and, afterward, from the center to excuse his parents, he became an expert in this area manipulation; Japanese psychologist Morita horse was creature serious neurological disorder, but he challenges the fact and via Morita treatment eventually invented the ... ... their most painful fact of life eventually became their most important things. You can do the same.

(e) action fable --- crabs, owls and bats

crabs, owls and bats to cram ashore the habit. Few years afterward, they graduate and acquire a doctorate. However, the crab is still rampant, owls slumber during the daytime and evening activities are still the cmd still hung upside down. Psychological Review】 【


This is even famous master of a fable, and its signification is simple: action more important than knowledge.
used in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking.
shrieked mysterious knowledge of psychology. However, the more even the best knowledge of psychology assist a person does not automatically become more healthy. In fact, I understand some people who had studied psychology for numerous years, they study an of the purposes of psychology is to rule themselves, but later so many annuals of school, their problems remain.
cause why this happens, a quite major cause is, they do not personally, equitable distant away for the knowledge of knowledge, knowledge, and not into their own life experience.
one of my friends favor psychology, has been considered fewer perceptive than those of psychology, not suitable for Psychology. But the fact is that presumption is not correct. He is not emotional enough, but he has a very big advantage: to know a good knowledge instantly in their own lives to do it. As a result, the knowledge that becomes a far real life experience, he does not
If we say that the quality of high sensitivity is a genius, then the power is more important Gao genius quality.
this fable can bring an end to ... of another meaning: Do not expect too much the magic of the recondite psychological treatment. Always the most important coerce in your own body, the mysteries of knowledge, the potential development of secret, dazzling success and so along, are far inferior to the power of your own body has been important. We used to go outdoor to find the answer to somebody another looking for strength, the results have forgotten the power in themselves.
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically save you.
punch if some renju touched you, if some text or a fashionable creed influenced you. So, these other people's words and experience are just a start, more importantly, a good knowledge you think you really use in your own life to go. Jewish philosopher Martin Buber
these words, I have always considered the most important:
you must begin their own. If you do not adore apt work deep in a assured life, if you do no own way to reveal the meaning of life because themselves, then because you, life will remain meaningless.

(VI) to give the Fables:

bees and flowers withered roses,GHD Diamond Flag 2011, the bees are still hard suck, because it takes before sucking off from this little sweet. But now in this little to cost, the bees suck the venom.
bees know this, because the venom bitter savor is the big inconsistency with the before. Thus, bees anger, however, breathe on it the whole world looked up to complain about, why the taste changed? !
Finally one day, do not know why, bee vibrating wings, flying a bit high. At this time, it found, withered roses nigh the flowers everywhere. Psychological Review】 【


This is the fable about love, is a young language preceptor of the true sentiment.
some time, she was falling out of love, painful, and always wanted to speak about me, I wish I can give her some knowledge of psychology help. We have some time, but virtually two months later, the absolute time they can not happen to get together.
the final time about her, she said: The pain of lost love is still plagued her, let her trance, unable to enjoy the beauty of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she placarded a little on the honey bee is a flower. That moment, her mind like thunder and lightning appeared in one sentence: was such a foolish, she's the bees in this sentence refers to her own course. That moment, she had to give up the truth out of insight. Previously, she ambitioned me to help her out, but in fact, the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly.
give up is not easy to give up love, principally painful. Because, love is when our young copy of parent-child relationship. Small children, no matter from which side, parents can not do without. If a complete disapproval of his father and mother, and that means necrosis for him, this is the final damage and panic. We have experienced just about been denied parents the pain and terror, so when love --- of copies of the parent-child relationship once again we experience the pain and fear, our emotions can easily become very bad.
However, likened to love and parent-child relationship, there is a colossal difference: a child, nought we can do, entire parents have the ultimate mention; But now we grow up, we have the power to choose their own destiny. It can be said, a child, we do not have wings bee, but now we have a pair of powerful wings.
However, when deeply in love, we will return to childhood, we forget that they have a pair of wings to fly. When we accomplish that, after their love is no longer automatically copy parent-child relationship, our love was free, there is a give up power.
Remember: Love is 2 asset, two entirely equal, independent and person reputation object. You can go, but not that hard for you there will be results, because distinct person, you can not make sure.
So, no matter how many you attention about the period love, if another person insistent to quit you, amuse esteem his choice.
And likewise remember, you are no longer a baby, are left with the grief of torment. You have grown up, you have a pair of mighty wings, you can fly out of a relationship has transform poison.

(g) near to the fable: the peerless Rose

Little Prince has a small planet, the planet suddenly blooming flower blooming roses. Previously, only some unknown on this planet the flowers, the little prince had never seen such pretty flowers, he fell in love with this rose, cautiously nurtured her.
those days, he thought, this is a unique flower on world, only his only planet, other places do not exist.
, however, so he came to Earth and found that there is a garden just the same as 5000 of this flower. At this time, he knows that he only have an mediocre flower.
the beginning, this finding, let the little prince was very sorrowful. But in the end, the little prince to know, notwithstanding there are many roses in the world, but his planet tis is still unique because that rose,GHD MK4 Pure Straighteners, he had water, cover flowers to cover her with a shade protection over , in addition to her body caterpillars, but also to listen to her grumbled, or boasted, listening to muffle her ... ... a word, and he tamed her, and she tamed him, she is his unique roses.
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This is a French classical
face of 5000 roses, the little prince said: But now we vacant the increasingly popular We are impatient to have
. Seems that every has had a rose, the merit of their own lives to Duoliaoyifen. Internet age, with several ten lover, is no longer a infrequent thing also. But I know who these random, no one is empty. They do not enjoy the relationship, they just enjoy the conquest.
But once owned, they will quickly lose interest in this intimate relationship. the stronger the lust to win, the faster the rate of wastage. acceptable.
However, the relationship between the United States, almost two inputs is the amplitude and degree to be tamed. When two people are naturally going into, surely, be tamed, the relationship will become a life nutrition, so that a person's life becomes more filling and more beautiful.
However, no matter how close. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still a rose, they are still two individuals. Rose not to voyage if the little prince, little prince or non-travel the roses with me, they must mallet together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden.
Remember: either a close and mutually independent relationship, the relationship is better than a thousand common. This relationship will send us the sense of loneliness from the hopeless liberate is the most important in our lives a variety of salvation.
If you have not seasoned, you can not know the pulchritude of this relationship.


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