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; high Donggao Hai Jun, analysis and views on love
the average person this, I felt very curious; because we thought Only the love of men and women is called In fact, not only between men and women, or men and men love it is called love, father and son, between mother and daughter's family, friends, friendship between, esprit de corps among fellow feeling is love.
very wide world of love, we not only love of human society, such as the love of parents, friends, love of country ... ... and so on, we love plants, such as the Tao love chrysanthemum, lotus love Zhou, General Chiang Wei now advocate There are people like animals, cats, dogs, racing pigeons. Some people even like the mineral collection of foreign bodies as the admiration of a variety of stones; more people collecting stamps collection matchbox. While love is a kind of sentient beings love, love is cruel love grass.
often hear people ask the question: 'where humans come from? ', Buddhist scriptures which he told us: life, love, is the source of life.
some love are From the bad aspects of that love, such as rope, bound to live we will make our body and mind are not free; love like chains, locks will be trapped us and make us a moment no peace; love sometimes, such as blind, caught up in the dark and unaware ; love like a knife-edge on the molasses, in order to corrupt what little sweet taste, and may have killed the danger of breaking the tongue; love like Oliver, the? quot; love thousand feet waves, Oliver thousand waves We drowned in the sea of bitterness in the overturning.
the bright side, love is sacrifice, the dedication, love is to encourage, is compassion. to the public, the total want to be loved, love to get other people's feelings . but there are some people who prefer to play their hearts, to love the mass society. But, love, and sometimes is very easy to go wrong, because love is not good, will be hated, because our society is generally spoken of love, often limited to modern love, love can not be further expanded the lapel of affinity with the people hold, love elevated to love mercy of all sentient beings . Today, I want to come in four levels of love with you speak human.
one.
human Bono's love of love so-called ordinary person, often narrow, limited, ordinary person's Love is possession, there are phases. human ordinary person's love, and sometimes may lead to many problems, inductive reason, about the following types:
(a) the object of love does not
see their favorite people, moving from the idea of love is human, but not when the object of love, not only can not increase happiness, but tales of trouble. For example, have been sympathizing with the other women, dated other people, but also pursue their goal, only result in tragedy. Moreover, emotions are two sides to things, Luohuayouyi, water heartless, can not be forced. soul to the extent it should when the light is light, when the depth is deep, if led astray too, it is inevitable the top of the results will not be stricken.
(b) the concept of love does not
Some people think that great wealth can buy someone else's love, and some people think that identity is not commensurate portal not quite can not contact, these are the wrong idea. Take the example of love between men and women: marriage as in the past, must have in order to make the media the number of dowry, to talk about marriage; or when falling in love, with a total Taking into account each other's identity, family background, appearance, education, occupation, number of conditions listed. like this conditional love, has become a material level of love, not true love, because true love is not stress conditions, fully paid.
(c) Love the right way some people think they can
three wives four concubines, Jinwucangjiao, enjoy the blessing of Qi, this is a personal pleasure private love. some people for a loved one, even if there are mistakes,
la gear womens shoes, not to be corrected, and they hate to be critical of others in every possible way, his eyes cast a shadow of, can not clearly see the true face each other, So some people say: Love is blind. We should have a very rich man loved his son, reluctant to let their children suffer a half hours to eat, clothes to wear are those who serve, scoop rice is poured to feed the food, as this has been spoiled to three years old, the child with anything and everything hands do not work, do nothing. One day, the rich man over fifty birthday, specially invited to a family fortune astrology, the operator, to know that eighty-year-old millionaire duong tho, and can only live to sixty-year-old son , which under the bad, the rich man for his son had a chance to hurt son was screaming in pain to cry up:
Dad it! you can only live to be eighty years old when I was only six years old, there several years to live; when you have to sleep in a coffin, Who will feed me? me how to dress to eat ah? '
wrong doting parents, life for their children more harm than good; parents to encourage the love , was able to give their children a great power, of life under the right choice to make. Twenty years ago, now abbot of Hsi Lai Temple Master Chuang Tzu decision quite, her parents side of the tears with a smile at her side to complete tonsure. why her parents mixed feelings on shaking it? crystal tears after, it is what kind of feelings? In today's Buddhist community,
la gear, there are many students the heart and become a monk, educated youth has been dedicated to Buddhism not a rare thing. But in twenty years ago, Taiwan Buddhist culture Shangqie occlusion not open when a highly educated young people to join to the knowledge of Buddhism, is very difficult. She has blood on his parents son's feelings, hope that their children can always Cheng Huan his knee, but the love between them is more affections law. As parents, smiles and tears in between, do not have some profound meaning.
In fact, Buddhism and While men and women do not oppose love, the love of husband and wife. only that the society of young men and women fall in love, has become the love of random ─ ─ from the precious love of men and women turned into a troublemaker chaotic love, this phenomenon is very good.
Some people say love one game in France is a comedy, a tragedy in the United Kingdom, in Italy is an opera; if in the U.S., and now the love has become a farce, but if we love China, in my observation the sidelines, it is a farce.
why we love modern society it is a farce? we can see many newspapers shocking reports, love is not a disfigurement is the result of injury, poisoning, created a lot of shocking ugly incidents. I saw a lot of ugly things happen, the total can not help but lament: Oh! beings really do not know how to love.
The so-called love, Let us not talked about sacrifice, dedication, but at least there in love with each other can hurt each other. not by name. 'a gentleman, and if people break off with, do not say bad things about each other; loyalty of the minister left the country, nor explain their noble name. Similarly, the lovers can be family dependents, that is good, if can not, but also as a gentleman, like good terms, do not turn Chengchou. Once the emotion, broke down, and harmoniously with each other to leave, how the heart to his love of the past once you have people who hate to smear him, hurt him or even destroy him, and that is Why bother?
It is said that when young people talk about love, love is hanging in the mouth, lip; middle-aged man about the time love, love the body, in the hand; the elderly talk about love when love is the heart, unforgettable. It can be seen, understanding of love is increased with age matures. Generally speaking, the ordinary person's love is from the roots to white hair, from the flowers to the flower faded, more eager for the joy for men and women. If the love that as we increase the rising personality, thus becoming more and more with the moral purity of the long, then the ordinary person's love will be more and more sublimated, From the love of their own, and even dependents of their parents, and then love the world of mankind.
II. Sage of love
human human sages, they have no feelings? There is no love? Their love with the world is Bono's love the same? Let me give an example to tell you about human saint of love:
(a) for the country forget that we have
Yu ancient sage, was the world's people are suffering from flood disaster, he was ordered to flood control, the lifting of the world the suffering of common people. Outside the supervision of thirteen years, three rather than go home after visiting their relatives, it is because he always thought of the people are living in dire straits, and forget their own private love affair. This is their country and the people and forget the spirit has left us an example of future generations.
in the Warring States, when Qu Yuan is the grandson of the Sydney side, because the villain huai listen to sow dissension, then it gradually alienated Qu Yuan, and even his exile. Qu Yuan, but still loves his country, loyal and strong hope that country to embark on the road, so, although not seen the letter on the kings, but not to change the world worry about the loyalty of his obsession, he even cast the final die Miluo River. We left many of his deeply moving patriotic rhetoric, you can feel humiliated Qu Yuan was a force to be patriotic sentiment, he preferred to put their lives martyred, not himself alleys. This love is a sacrifice of love has been forgotten.
patriotic poet Lu Song Fangweng, body by Southern and Northern Song's turmoil, on his deathbed, when his sons said: Zhongyuan date not been forgotten
(b) the public has no self
Mahanama Buddha's cousin, General, is the general Kapilavastu the defenders. When the city was the enemy defeated, he said to the enemy: 'Do not kill my people, and now only ask you to wait; so I sink to the bottom and then float, You kill my people began to strike! 'Ferocious enemy of glass-command ─ ─ king said:' Anyway, you escape death, all right! The last one to promise you wish. 'Mahanama to sink into the water, and the time is long past have not cropped up, the king wondered glass, then dive into the water to send the Department a closer look. Mahanama had tied her hair in the bottom of the tree, the meeting never came. Why did he indulge himself in the water it? Is to have more time for people to flee the city. People like this to die for the brave sacrifice of love, the heart is also a superb love.
world's sages, and some for love of country and love of all living creatures gave their lives; some selfless pursuit of truth, let's forget about their own safety for the Law of the saints love.
(c) offering for the law has
In Buddhism, there is He went to India to study Buddhism, and subject to eight hundred in the desert. Passing on the way, horses that are carrying the water suddenly dumped lost. In the desert without water is necessarily a dead end, but he endured the torment of all the hungry, the macro issue of Kennedy vows? Step rather die west days, no further east Soil Health. ; even eat with the chopsticks are also Chinese-style; Japanese culture can be said that the offshoot of another pulse of Chinese culture. Initially, it was sown who will spread the Chinese culture in Japan? It's true master of the Tang Dynasty Supervisor: Supervisor True Master is my hometown of Yangzhou sages predecessors, when he vowed to promote Buddhism in Japan, before and after a total of seven times through the efforts of took twelve years. have a failure, by official arrest back; Another time, in the ran into robbers bandits looted; and later a typhoon waves, halfway through the turn back; even been betrayed by his followers, such an arduous journey, and finally to Japan in the seventh. At that time, he is sixty years old, eyes are blind. However, he still does not change his mind so that moving under the words: 'for the event are, how enjoy life?' in order to complete promote Buddhism, salvation of the event, he did his District life. Seeking the Truth like this enthusiasm, promote Buddhism COMPASSION, also up from the distillation of agape.
(d) to do their filial piety, the great Buddhist
dutiful son Mahamaudgalyayana Venerable suffer in hell in order to rescue the mother, go through fire and do their efforts, so leaving the Buddha said Bon Kai hung upside down by the newspaper to save the key to Parents, not only their own biological parents have degrees, and everyone was able to parents rescues, this filial piety is a great transformation of love.
Zen Master Ji Qi Road era, a lug rolls of scriptures, a lug old blind mother, full of Dharma. was to to help him take care of the old mother, he gently declined to say:
is nurtured my mother, not your mother, should I take care of her daily life. '
Tang Chen Zunsu, Fung Gaomai, suitably in the Zen Master Huang Bo Xi Yun, something pro-Shiko, Po shoes to remain devoted to their mother, weaving, so that everyone call him Chen Pu shoes.
Buddhism, there are many touching filial piety, the piety that nurture gratitude, truth, goodness of human feelings, but also a high degree of love Antonio.
(e) the beloved disciple as yourself
Now I want to and you have to educate children about Goode, using a variety of skillful means, pay a tremendous effort by the love of mentoring generated.
When Confucius was heartbroken and said: 'days of mourning I! days of mourning I!' Confucius's tears reveal his feelings. Why disciple Yan Hui died, made him so sad? he died for the young talents of the , in order to grieve the loss of talent ah! this is a compassionate love.
Milarepa division Seeking visit everywhere, and finally find their big friendly knowledge of Marpa guru to preach the Master. on teacher asked him: 'Do you worship me as a teacher, I ask you, what you support me?'
Milarepa bowed reverently: 'I am the body, word, and dedication to the industry you, as my support. '
guru agreed to accept him as a disciple. One day, the teacher said to him:' You good health, I want you to give me the book built a Buddhist scriptures The stone house, built well, I will preach to you! '
Milarepa heard, very happy, teachers will immediately request a house built on the pattern to him. guru said:' I advantageous to the top of the hill in the east, making a round the house, but also to eliminate your karma. '
day Milarepa so laborious to construct the building, made almost half of the time, the division came and took him a half-moon of the jacket, layers of folded up and placed on the ground, said: 'This place is not good, and you split the stone and the material transported down the mountain, according to the suit to the West the way the hills for me to build a house now! '
Milarepa miserable, had to be made under the back of the back housing, and other cover half of the time, the division again, and said:' This house seems to be like No, you put him removed, the wood and stone to move down the mountain to the north of the mountain to build a truly representative of my practice's triangle house it! '
Milarepa had to follow the division command, re- nights of deadlines, not to the sun baked smoked, played for the bitter wind and rain destroyed. finally made a third of the time, the division here again, and asked: 'Who told you this house is to do Yeah!'
Milarepa anxious, immediately replied: 'This is the master you personally commanded Yeah!'
Master scratched his head and said: 'Oh? how I can not remember? in The triangle made bad feng shui of the house where, like the revised law to punish the mandala, you did not mean to harm me? removed! removed! to North Mountain to me to build a square house, to nine, above to build a warehouse, a total of ten layers. building finished, I will preach to you! '
remarks down, he spoke of hard work and all down the drain.
to This also removed the built, torn down and cover the years many years in the brick bearing soil pick the past, too tired to have rotten flesh body. Shixiongdimen looked very heart, automatically came together to help him move Watts, pick brick, master saw, but still furious: 'I told you to be building a house, and no Jiaoren help build, how can you so lazy, casual look for someone else to help building it?'
not only call him, also took a heavy stick to beat him, playing the pain, it is inevitable Kuchu the sound, the master has not the last part of comforting words, but snapped wrist: 'What are you crying? when you first came to me that you take the body, mouth, all dedicated to me, and I am now playing my own stuff, curse is also my own stuff, What are you crying? '
ordeal is far Milarepa than we imagine, all kinds of suffering, grown up, he silently endured. Years later, he spoke at last into the channel, and permits for a large Aluohanguo. When he awakened that night, crying over his master speechless: 'I order you a golden Wizards, only at the most difficult way to hone the many hardships you so you will soon be attained. When the master scold you, beat you, when you are ruthless, Master's my heart is very painful. But, for your future master only Renxia heart to spur you again and again ... ... '
does not look like such a harsh perverse acts, in fact, is the supreme sages cherish talent Love.
my young monk, also received such education. ordained us to quit when the Field, ring masters sitting in a row, vigilant in questioning us: 'You own the heart and ordained to come, or the Master that you come? '
was rushing to say:' teacher compassion! is the heart and to his disciples ordained voluntary. '
teachers quit listening, without speaking, picked up the cane, is the meal whipped, and then said: 'Hello, bold, your teacher did not ask you to, even dare to come.'
another ring for the division, again ask you: ' you to be ordained to come to their own, or your teacher told you to come? '
just saw some people were hit, the heart has JIE JU, up bends with the wind, said carefully:
teacher compassion! division is home to me ordained. '
thinks answered well, who knows what is beat him up, showed their say:' Oh! If your teacher does not call you to ordained, you ordained a do not come? '
down a wish, it makes sense, if the master is not asked themselves ordained, shall he not know the heart and it? pulls a ring division, is still the same problem With two of experience, this time deftly quickly said: 'Master asked me to be ordained disciples to ask themselves the heart and precepts.'
this answer must foolproof? unexpected , and has endured a beating, said after the fight: 'you're slick.'
finally passed that hurdle. to another ring, where teachers, the topic changed: 'Have you had no Health and killed it? '
killing sinful, how can you say killed a living? quickly shook his head:' not killed students. '
Oh! ants in the house you do not Tasi one killed a mosquito does not it? clearly lying! '
so the provision of Baba and the provision of a beating, lying in the fight, they do convincingly. and for the one, or the same issue, but to truthfully admitted: 'Report Teachers! disciples killed students.' 'sin yo! sin yo!'
under the whip off the rain, at the end, regardless of teacher asked what the ring, then simply do not want to answer, and only no alternative but to say: 'Teacher, you play well despite a fight!'
we receive the kind of education is unreasonable to treat rational, is ruthless in dealing with love. in unreasonable, harsh conditions are willing to bow under, then the letter before the truth can not be pursued it? ruthless teacher, in fact, for those of us hardy cross of sentient beings the right to the clever use of convenient, this ruthless, in fact, a large Compassion! I often feel very happy because we received such a rigorous education, like metal scraps are thrown in the furnace of the Daye Shaolian Cheng Gang, even though difficult, today, in retrospect, it is a blessing. For Now teenagers, I often regret that, in this era, the biggest loss I have is a lack of education received in the spirit of temper, and this turn iron into steel, Tao Zhu after learning of the great compassion, need greater power of love.
III. Lohan's love
human love is a hierarchy, from the deep love between husband and wife first, extended to brothers and sisters, and then extended to the relatives and friends, extended to the neighbors, compatriots, the people, and then expanded to All of the animals, all beings. Our sages from the ordinary man's love to love, and then turn to the birth of the Ocean of Love, Lohan, even beyond the love of Buddha.
We often worship Earth Store Bodhisattva, is 安徽九华山 of practice, between mountains, densely thin, only one or two boy living with him. One day, the young boy used to live in the mountains do not want to go down. King of the underworld to send the boy down, tell him a poem, this poem, we can see the Ocean, the Buddha's heart, love is how they like it? Now you farewell as high as the clouds of our abode, you Jiuhuashan the next.
Like to go back to riding a bamboo horse like kids games, do not want to trickle in here to practice for Wong merit.
jian shui out on that. World is illusory, not real, when you wash the bowl and see the reflection of trees flower tree, do not think that there is a real pond inside the colorful world.
Do not cry, I live in Kau Wa hill with my own people, you see the clouds, clouds, sky, flying light that smoke, not all of nature can accompany me? Salo
like this one Chinese, they understand human feelings, love the young boy, give him comfort, words, every word is very beyond. Tao Tang plot
Master, abbot of sense of Yizhou Fu Temple when the host of many leprosy patients, one who rotten stink, plot Master Road, not only do not dislike them, and they ate together and patient treatment for their Mu-hoon, will not feel tired. The news spread, many believers have to dodge not close. Plot was asked: 'Master, ah, you and every day with some of leprosy patients with rotten and smelly, do not you afraid of being contagious? '
Road plot smiled slightly:' Dade Reflection for: the so-called clean and smell foul,
la gear originals, full of people know the role of the heart, they have no abhorred, where to resentment? Heart clean, always clean, I am a monk if even that Wang Xin are fit, I could not get even this compassionate heart, would not deserve Road Act? '
Arhat Buddha mind Gaokuang of these saints, their compassion is equal, is the same thing in my life.
great Kassapa Buddha's disciple, is a great Arhat. Great Kasyapa was born the son of wealthy parents want him to get married, he declined, he said to monasticism. Forced by their parents again, to the last resort, then a woman with a gold sculpture of parents said that unless there is a beautiful girl like her before Kenqu. His parents sent for the procession carrying the statue of gold, like the country, said it was a gold statue, she will have good luck girls worship, then, the country's young girls have heard this come to worship. There is a girl to the golden image in front of golden light suddenly eclipsed, were overshadowed by her beauty. Later, she married and they do put the wife, because she is the famous beauty Miao Yin. Miao Yin and large
Kasyapa married, had also to cultivate the Miao Yin, Great Kassapa strange at first she: 'My parents have money have the money to your house and asked me to marry you, against my monastic voluntary. 'Great Kasyapa one:' That's fine, I have to cultivate, and we repair all the right ways! '
So in the name of husband and wife, in fact, they practice the. After twelve years, their parents have died, I thought I could go to practice according to their wishes, then a monk monasticism, and later, were to become monks and nuns. Miao Yin as too beautiful, and although the nuns, but each time out begging alms, have a lot of teenagers to follow in the back, and she joked, she was not scared to go out to beg alms, her husband has done great Kassapa name went out alms, sub for her to eat some food. Therefore provoke a lot of gossip: 'you all to see, and what years the name of husband and wife, now a monk to do monks, nuns, and two people are still so loving look. 'Later, Miao Yin deeply lament her beauty is a very sad thing, they then get ugly face, hoping to make a Therefore, large Arhat's Love and human common sense view is very different. In the temple's dining hall
hanging in a couplet: A gray body off intelligence, relentless no love life. In fact, they are unsympathetic and Lohans love, filled with the Holy One of Emotion. Lohans are ruthless, is beyond the children affair, abandoning personal greed, will have abandoned the private love affair between men and unfeeling to the rise of the majority of all the beings of infinite compassion and selfless. We do see the lay of Master Hongyi Wife and Children, The Master Tang Congjian whole family refused to sub-door, seemingly heartless, but it is big love. They love to his wife and children, clean up the pursuit of truth, promoted to care for the mob. So the real love is not with each other, but a communication of life, but also a common people of the world's endless dedication!
IV. Buddha's love
world become a major saints of the Buddha, his love life how what?
Buddha's mother died he was born on the seventh day. Into the channel after the Buddha had been hoping to speak to his mother, Buddhism, repay birth of grace, then finally grieved for his mother, Lee-day view, a a wish. After the death of the Buddha's father Suddhodana, all the princes want to personally discuss his father carry the coffin, though the Buddha has become to Daoxing, also personally carry the coffin of his father. We can see that the ranks of the Buddha which also carry the coffin, his disciples are not touched by no one. Buddhist filial piety for our parents do a very good model, the Buddha is a great saint Chunghsiao endowment.
Buddha's love is based on We know that the Buddha did not become a monk before the boom days had married the eldest daughter of King Santo good feel lost Gandhara ─ ─ yeah princess; Buddha into the road after ten years away from returning to the home phase. Buddha became a Buddha, with a jealously guarding Konggui finally met his wife, Luo Tuo Ye lose heart in a hurry, do not know the past has now become what her husband? Her heart is full of expectation and doubt, do not know how to meet him instead?
Buddha and his father, ministers, princes, after Syrian-old, finally lost Gandhara and met Jesus. Yeah lose Tuo Luo thought: 'I want to properly questioned him, why give up me? 'But when she saw the Buddha when it paid a solemn look, unconsciously knees. Solemn quiet words of the Buddha: 'Lord lost Gandhara, please forgive me the practices; although I'm sorry you personally, but I am worthy of all sentient beings. Now, you happy for me, I finally Xiuman wish I scrape, I achieved the Buddha, I for my wide voluntary transition beings, you are my broad cross beings as well. 'The kind of compassionate voices, solemn instrument only, beyond the language of love the sound, we saw all be moved, and eventually lost Tuo Luo Ye also cultivate a monk. So, really love a person, he tends to guide the right path, to help him more mature, not just on the fated body.
Buddha relatives of this, the enemy is the same for the enemy. ─ ─ Tipodaduo Buddha's enemies, specifically against him. However, the Buddha never hate him, always tell you that Tipodaduo is on the edge of his inversion, is his good mentor. There is no light the darkness? There are good reasons not evil? No Tipodaduo, the great Buddha, how can the noble achievements of Buddhist admirable it?
Buddha of compassion is not only take care of dignitaries, but to all living beings everywhere. Sick disciples, the Buddha himself to him and bottled water decoction; old monk blurred vision, and sewing clothes is not convenient, go-between for him Buddha. Disciple of the Buddha love, like loving mother, to the disciples to light, to the living beings to rely on, it is our Merciful Buddha, our endless hope,
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disciple of the Buddha skillful means of education, patient set-up. Pick the feces of a Trinity, the Buddha specifically to the transition of him around to the same route; an ignorance was not even a Shouji winding back of the Zhou Li gamma, the Buddha is very patient and told him, for he speak Dharma let him enlightenment; his disciples Jiazhan Yan missionary in a far away, one day, to send a little student to greet the Buddha, the Buddha knew, after saying to his disciples' disciples who came Jiazhan Yan, to take a room in my bed to let him sleep! 'That the Buddha is greatest for children from afar, loving care to be this way, disciples of the Buddha is not only concerned about the small, but also equal to the care of the preacher's Jiazhan Yan in the distance.
blind eye to the practice of Ana Lv, until his license had Tianyan Tong, the Buddha was assured; Ananda women often suffer the trouble, wait until the real into the Road, the Venerable Ananda, the Buddha's heart was down on the stone.
we talk about care, and upgrading of the human world, and even the tragic pity of all sentient beings. Possession of the love from the ordinary person and then to go to achieve the national saint of love love, and finally elevated to the Buddhas and Bodhisattvas,
love like water, can nourish our lives, but the water moistening, water can capsize, emotional handled properly, they have us drowned dead. How can we deal with feelings? I am dedicated to you only make four:
1. We want the
2. We must
3. We want the
4. we have to
how we love the heart of the affair private removal and mold for the dedication of the public's mind? How do we share the feelings of the selfish, unselfish affections law into love; to have a choice, a difference of love,
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