(A) the growth of fable: the growth of apple trees will never do a
an apple, and finally the result.
first year, which all over with 10 apples, 9 were taken away, that she was one. In rejoinder, angry apple trees, so from the off, in turn, refused to grow. The afterward year, which bring an end to ... with 5 apples, four were taken away, they get one.
However, it can do: proceed to grow. For example, the second year, which bring ... to an end with 100 fruit were taken away 90, that she was 10.
possible, it was taken away 99, that she was one. But it does not matter,
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In fact, how many fruit is not the most important. The most important is that apple trees grow! So apple trees grow into towering trees, those who had hindered its growth will be weak enough to bypass the power. Really, do not anxiety so many about fruit growing is the most important.
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beginning work, you talented, high-spirited, believing that But the reality presently buffet you a few Sap, maybe, you make a big contribution for the element that no one seriously; may only get attention but not the spoken benefits; perhaps ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their benefit only a small part, and falls far short of your expectations.
So you petulant, you upset, you grumble ... ... In the end, if you decide not to make their own made to mate their income. After the past few years, you have a self-examination and found that now you have no work, equitable a enthusiasm and talent.
But the essence is that you have stopped growing.
this article, around us everywhere.
reason for such mistakes, because we forget that life is a junket, as a whole, we feel that they have grown too, and now is the time of the fruit. We too care about the pros and cons of the moment, and forget the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of cutting off the meridians. We are ready to give up doing so, the road continues to grow.
Remember: If you are a working family, having not understand management, management or mismanagement of brutal bosses or corporate mores, then, to prompt ourselves about, do not because of anger and full of indignation and cutting off the meridians. No matter what, must do an ever growing apple trees, because you will never grow important than how much money each month.
(b) the motives of the fable: the child in whom a group of children playing
frolic in front of an antique, sounds and groaning. Over the past few days, the elderly unbearable.
So he came out to 25 cents for each baby, said to them: merry day is still coming, for always frolic. Old people bring an end to ... and give each child 15 pence. He explained that he had not earnings, only less to some. It also can be 15 cents, kid are still happily away.
third day, the elderly only 5 cents for each child.
children with wrath,
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were two types of motivation: inner motivation and outer motivation. According to the internal motivation to perform, we are mains of their own. If we are driven at external motivation, we will be swayed by external ingredients, become its slaves.
In this fable, the old man of the enumeration is simple, he will be the children's internal motivation factors, so it operated the children's action. Fables of the elderly, a lot like your boss, boss? And cents, like not like your wages, premiums and other varieties of external rewards?
such as the external evaluation as a reference skeleton, our emotions can lightly fluctuate. Because of external factors beyond our control, it is easy to deviate from our internal expectations, so we are not satisfied, we grumble. Dissatisfaction and grumbles and other negate sensations so that our pain, in order to depress the pain, we had to reduce the internal expectations, the most general method is to reduce the work effort.
the formation of causative for the external appraisal system, the most important reason is that parents like to control him. Parents too rather to use verbal awards and punishments, matter rewards and punishments and other control children, rather than to ignore the child's own motivation. Over time, the children have forgotten their aboriginal motivations, attentions about what are the external appraisal. School, he forgot to learn the elemental motivation --- curiosity and the delight of learning; work, work that he has forgotten the original motivation --- the joy of growth, the evaluation of superiors and income fluctuations into his work largest source of happiness and pain.
remember: external evaluation of the system is constantly a household history, but you can crash it, from now on cultivating their own internal evaluation system, to study and work into a
(c) the planning of the fable: the piece of paper folded 51 times
Imagine your hands are a big enough white. Now, your mission is to fold it 51 times. So, how high it is?
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a skyscraper so high? No, too unfamiliar, the thickness more than the distance among Earth and the Sun.
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to now, I obtain asked this a dozen people a fable, only two people said that this may be less than the height of an fantastic, when others meditation the highest altitude is a high building so tall.
folded 51 times the height of such a terrorist, but if I were you the 51 pearly periodical stacked together?
This contrast was frightful to many people. Because there is no direction, lack of planning in life, like the 51 white simple stacked together. Doing this today, morrow doing that, every time there is no link between efforts. As a result, even if each work is done very well, they have your whole life is nobody but a simple superposition.
course, life is more intricate than this fable. Some people, life finds a simple direction and firmly to do so, they finally reached someone else's life unattainable height. For example, a friend of my direction in life is English, he spent more than a ten-year efforts,
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some people, their intention in life is also very clear, for example, start a company employer, so they need a lot of skills --- skills, management skills, communication skills, decision-making skills, and so on. They may try act this in the beginning, but attempt act that, none of them are especially adept, but in the end, to open the company boss in this instruction will be before these seemingly radiated to the integration effort together, which is a folding of complicated life, rather than a simple superposition.
Remember: the power of visible more useful than the hidden force.
Now, the popular place to detect the response from the unseen, such as potential development, such as the success of science, that our lives depend aboard a number of miracles to be saved. However, in my opinion, Dongguan Heng Yuan Counseling Center counselor Maozheng Jiang said more correctly, avert the fables: feline escape the eclipse of the tricks
, Tom and Toby found wherever there is sunlight, they will see that they are mad for their own shadow.
However, Tom and Toby eventually have found their own solution. Tom is always close their eyes. Toby is a access to always stay in the shadows of other entities.
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mental note of this legend, a little mental problem is how to become more psychological problems.
can say that all psychological problems are narrated to the distortion of the facts. What facts? We effectively those suffering negative memorabilia.
Because painful experience, we do not want to face the negative events. However, once occurred, such negative events destined to be with us for life, we can do up to suppress them but to go into the subconscious, which is the so-called forgotten.
However, their subconscious will still continue to play a role. And even if we forget them even more powerful for the fact that, the pain related with these facts will still bombard us, let us somehow sad, and can not be inhibited. This pain Let us beyond efforts to escape.
development to the end, the usual solution is to these two: either we like the same cat Tom, entirely twisting their own experience of life in all the important negative facts are ignored; either, we like cat care than the same, simply add their pain, their own anything were very wrong, since anything is so bad, sad that their most original accident is not so painful.
Baiyun mental hospital adviser,
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many drunkard adults, they have had an drunkard and abusive father, and put the father's many torture. To forget the grief, they learn the same way. In addition to these apparent
the wrong way, we persons have contrived a great many of sorts ways to escape suffering, Freud called these methods of psychological barricade mechanisms. Too painful, these defense mechanisms is essential, but aggravate, if the perversion of the facts of psychological defense mechanism is so intense, it will send more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social nervousness disorder, multiple personality, or even schizophrenia.
really only one way to reach health --- face the pain. Face the pain of people suffering from a number of abrupt results got, they will eventually become the life of the gathering of wealth.
Remember: shadow and light, are life's asset.
one of the most important psychological statute, no matter how painful, you are not escape. You can only go brave face it, resolve it, further it, and it reached a ultimate settlement. If you own a short-lived absence of power, you can find help, find friends and relatives to help, or seek vocational help, you trust the person accompany you to the face of these painful things.
American psychologist, Rogers was the most alone person, but when he resolved to face this fact and after he became a true master of interpersonal relationships; U.S. psychologist Frank has a savage and alcoholic stepfather and a bad mother, but when he challenges the fact and afterward from the heart to excuse his parents, he became an specialist in this area management; Japanese psychologists Morita is Mazen is a serious neurological disorder, but by daring the facts and finally invented Morita treatment ... they lives in the most painful truth finally become their most important things. You can do the same.
(e) action fable --- crabs, owls and bats
crabs, owls and bats to go to cram school abuse. Few years later, they all graduated and received his PhD. However, the crab is still rampant, night owls are still slumbering in the daytime activities, cmd still hung upside down.
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a fable, it's averaging is simple: movement important than knowledge.
used in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking.
phoned mysterious perception of psychology. However, extra even knowledge of psychology assist a person does not automatically chance more healthy. In truth, I know some human who learned psychology for many years, they learn psychology, 1 of the purposes namely apt rule themselves, yet capable behind so many years, their problem remains.
reason why this happens, a very important reason is that they do not personally, by far only the knowledge of knowledge, knowledge is not into their own life experience.
one of my friends like psychology, psychology has been more than those that are not acute,
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If say, the quality of high sensitivity is a genius, then go-anywhere quality talent is more important.
This fable can also derive different meaning: Do not expect too recondite magic of psychotherapy. The most important power is always in your own body, the mysteries of knowledge, the potential development of mysterious, dazzling success of science, etc., are distant inferior to the power of your own body has been important. We accustom to go appearance to find the answers to others where to find the power, the results have forgotten the power in themselves.
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically retention you.
If the punch line of some Lianzhu touched you, if some text or a current creed influenced you. So, these people's words and experience are just the beginning, more importantly, you think you actually use a agreeable knowledge of your own life to go. Jewish philosopher Martin Buber
these words, I have all thought the maximum important:
you have to start. If you do not go in depth with a affirmative love life, if you do not go their own way to reveal the meaning of life for themselves, then for you, life will remain insignificant.
(VI) to give up the fable:
bees and flowers wilted roses, the bees are still hard to suck, because it formerly had from a flower in the suck sweet takes. But now in this little flower, the bees suck the venom.
bees know this, because the venom bitter, the taste is a big feud with the previous. Thus, bees anger, whatsoever, exhale on it the entire world saw up to complain about, and why the savor changed? !
Finally one daytime, do not know why, bee vibrating its wings, flying a little higher. At this time, it base, shriveled roses around everywhere is the flowers.
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This is about the love fable, a young language teacher is the true emotion.
some time, her displeasure in adore, quite painful, I always ambitioned to speak almost, I hope I can give her some knowledge of psychology help. We have some time, but almost two months later, the aggregate time they can not occur to get attach.
last time about her, she said: Pain of lost love is still perturbing her, let her trance, can not enjoy the charm of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she placarded a little bee on flower juice is. In that immediate, her mind lightning camel appeared saying: only silly, her words in the bee, of course refers to herself. This moment, she had to give up the fact out of sagacity. Previously, she wanted me to help her out, but in fact the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly.
not easy to give up, give up, primarily in love is pain. Because love is juvenile, when our copy of the parent-child relationship. Young children, no matter from which side, are inseparable from Mom and Dad. If a complete denial of his father and mom, and that means death for him, this is the ultimate injury and alarm. We have experienced more or less to be father and mother no pain and fear, so while love --- of copies of the parent-child relationship once afresh we experience the pain and fear, our emotions can easily become very bad.
However, likened to love and parent-child relationship, there is a huge difference: a child, we can not, all parents have the final say; but now, we grow up, we have the power to prefer their own destiny. It can be said,
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However, when caught up in love, we will return to childhood, we can forget a pair of flying wings. And so we ourselves realize that, the love is no longer automatically copy parent-child relationship, we love to get free, have to give up power.
Remember: Love is two things, two completely equal, independent personality of the person to do. You can work, but not that you worked hard on there will be results, because another person, you are not around.
So, no matter how many you care about a love, if another person determined to quit you, please respect his alternative.
And also memorize, you are no longer childhood, can only let the pain of torture. You have adults, you have a couple of mighty wings, you can fly out of a relationship has become poison.
(g) close fable: the unique Rose
Little Prince has a small planet, the planet of sudden bloom of a blooming rose. Previously, on this planet only a few nameless flowers, the little prince had not watched such beautiful flowers, he fell in love with the rose, cautiously nurtured her.
that fall butme time, he thought, this is a unattached flower on world, only he is the only planet, other places do not exist.
However, he came to Earth and found that there is a garden just the same as 5000 of this flower. At this time, he knows that he only have an ordinary flower.
the starting, this breakthrough, let the little prince was very sad. But in the end, the little prince to understand, even although the world has innumerable roses, but his planet tis is still unique because tis roses, he gushed over, took off her hood cover, with the screen protection over , in addition to her body of caterpillars, but also listen to the Yuan Yi and her claim to listen to her muffle ... ... In short, he obedient her, and she tamed him, she is his solitary roses.
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face of 5000 roses, the little prince said: But now we blank the increasingly popular We are impatient to have
. As if, for each has been a rose, the amount of their own lives Duoliaoyifen. Internet age, with several ten lover, is no longer too rare thing. But I know who these melodramatic, no one is empty. They do not enjoy the relationship, they just enjoy the conquest.
But once owned, they will fast lose amuse in this intimate relationship. the stronger the appetite to overcome,
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However, the relationship between the United States, they are almost the class of commitment and the tame level. When two people are surely going into, naturally being tamed, the relationship will become a life nutrition, so that a person's life becomes more filling and more beautiful.
However, no matter how intimate. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still the roses, they are still two individuals. Rose not to peregrination if the little prince, little prince alternatively non-travel carry around the roses, they have to stick together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden.
Remember: both a close and mutually neutral relationship, the relationship is better than one thousand general. This relationship will bring us a sense of solitude from the hopeless emancipate, the most important in our lives is a salvation.
If you never capable, you can not know the relationship of the United States.
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