Growth of fable

(A) the growth of fable: the growth of apple trees will never do a

an apple, and finally the result.
1st year, which bring an end to ... with 10 apples, nine were taken away, that she was one. In feedback, angry apple trees, so from the off,Nike Shox Butikk, in turn, refused to grow. The next year, which bring an end to ... with five apples, four were taken away, they get one.
However, it tin do: continue to grow. For sample, the second year, which end up with 100 fruit were taken away 90, that she was 10.
promising, it was taken away 99, that she was one. But it does not matter, it can continue to grow, the fruit of the third year-end 1000 ... ...
In fact, how much fruit is not the most important. The most important is that apple trees grow! So apple trees grow into towering trees, those who had hindered its growth will be weak enough to ignore the power. Really, do not anxiety so much about fruit growing is the most important.

psychological Comments] [you are not a meridian of the work has since broken family?
beginning work, you gifted, high-spirited, believing that But the reality presently buffet you a few Sap, maybe, you make a big contribution for the element that no one seriously; may only get consideration but not the oral benefits; perhaps ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their benefit only a small chapter, and falls far short of your expectations.
So you offended, you upset, you complaint ... ... In the end, if you judge not to make their own made to match their income. After the elapse few years, you have a self-examination and found that now you have no work, just a passion and genius.
But the elite is that you have stopped growing.
this anecdote, around us everywhere.
reason for such mistakes, because we forget that life is a junket, as a whole, we feel that they have grown too, and now is the time of the fruit. We too care about the pros and cons of the moment, and forget the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of cutting off the meridians. We are prepared to give up doing so, the road continues to grow.
Remember: If you are a working family, having not know management, management or mismanagement of savage bosses or corporate civilization, then, to caution ourselves about, do not for of anger and full of resentment and tearing off the meridians. No matter what, must do an ever growing apple trees, because you will never grow important than how much money each month.

(b) the motives of the fable: the child in whom a team of children playing

frolic in front of an age, sounds and groaning. Over the past few days, the elderly unbearable.
So he came out to 25 cents for each child, said to them: happy day is still coming, as always frolic. Old people bring an end to ... and give each child 15 cents. He unraveled that he had no income, only less to some. It also can be 15 cents, children are still happily away.
third daytime, the aged only 5 pence for each child.
babies with rage,

psychological Comments] [you whom the .
were two types of motivation: internal motivation and external motivation. According to the internal motivation to doing, we are masters of their own. If we are pedaled by external motivation, we will be swayed by external elements, become its slaves.
In this fable, the old man of the measurement is simple, he will be the children's internal motivation factors, so it operated the children's behavior. Fables of the elderly, a lot like your boss, boss? And cents, like not like your wages, dividends and other varieties of external rewards?
such as the external evaluation as a reference border, our emotions can easily fluctuate. Because of external factors beyond our control, it is easy to deflect from our internal expectations, so we are not satisfied, we grumble. Dissatisfaction and complaints and other negative emotions so that our pain, in order to reduce the pain, we had to reduce the internal expectations, the most general method is to reduce the work effort.
the formation of a reason as the external appraisal system, the maximum essential cause is that parents like to control him. Parents also rather to use verbal rewards and disciplines, matter rewards and disciplines and other control children, rather than to ignore the child's own motivation. Over time, the kid have forgotten their elemental motivations, attentions about what are the external evaluation. School, he forgot to learn the elemental motivation --- curiosity and the delight of learning; work, work that he has forgotten the original motivation --- the joy of growth, the appraisal of superiors and income fluctuations into his work largest source of pleasure and afflict.
remember: external evaluation of the system is often a kin history, but you can break it, after hours cultivating their own interior evaluation system, to learn and work into a

(c) the planning of the fable: the piece of paper folded 51 times

Imagine your hands are a big enough white. Now, your mission namely to fold it 51 periods. So, how tall it is?
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a skyscraper so high? No, too unfamiliar, the thickness more than the distance between Earth and the Sun.

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folded 51 times the height of such a terrorist, but if I were you the 51 white paper stacked together?
This compare was shocking to many people. Because there is not way, absence of arranging in life, favor the 51 white simple stacked attach. Doing this today, morrow doing that, every time there is no interlock between efforts. As a result, even now every work is done quite well, they have your whole life is nothing but a uncomplicated superposition.
course, life is more complicated than this fable. Some people, life finds a simple direction and firmly to do so, they finally reached someone else's life unattainable height. For example, a friend of my direction in life is English, he spent more than a decade efforts, the value of memory of the word only reached ten million and more, at this point to reach the average person can not match the height.
some people, their direction in life is likewise very remove, case in point, begin a company boss, so they need a lot of capabilities --- capabilities, management capabilities, communication skills, decision-making skills, and so on. They may attempt doing this in the beginning, but try doing that, naught of them are particularly adept, but in the end, to open the corporation boss in this direction will be before these seemingly strewed to the integration effort together, which is a folding of complicated life, rather than a simple superposition.
Remember: the power of apparent more serviceable than the hidden coerce.
Now, the popular location to find the answer from the unseen, such as potential development, such as the success of science, that our lives depend on a number of miracles to be saved. However, in my attitude, Dongguan Heng Yuan Counseling Center counselor Maozheng Jiang said more correctly, avoid the fables: feline escape the shadow of the tricks

, Tom and Toby found wherever there is brightness, they will penetrate that they are lunatic for their own shadow.
However, Tom and Toby eventually have found their own solution. Tom is forever close their eyes. Toby is a way to all linger in the shadows of other things.

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mental memorandum of this fable, a little mental problem is how to become more psychological problems.
can mention that entire psychological problems are narrated to the perversion of the facts. What facts? We chiefly those suffering negative events.
Because painful experience, we do not want to face the negative events. However, once occurred, such negative events predestined to be with us for life, we can do up to suppress them but to go into the subconscious, which is the so-called forgotten.
However, their subconscious will still continue to melodrama a character. And even now we forget them even more powerful for the fact that, the pain associated with these facts will still aggression us, let us somehow melancholy,Nike Shox Monster, and can not be quelled. This pain Let us beyond efforts to escape.
development to the end, the usual solution is to these two: either we like the same cat Tom, completely distorting their own experience of life in all the important negative facts are ignored; both, we like cat care than the same, simply combine their pain, their own anything were very bad, since anything is so bad, sad that their most original event is not so painful.
Baiyun mental hospital consultant, said Li Ling, 99% of narcotic users had a painful experience. The reason they drugs, in order to make their escape the pain. It's like conceal in the shadows, the painful fact is that a devil, the devil in mandate to avoid this, simply to sell itself to a greater demon.
many alcoholic adults, they have had an alcoholic and abusive father, and put the father's many torment. To forget the pain, they learn the same way. In addition to these visible
the wrong way, we humans have invented a crowd of all sorts of ways to escape suffering, Freud called these methods of psychological barricade mechanisms. Too painful, these defense mechanisms is essential, but aggravate, if the distortion of the facts of psychological defense machinery is so intense, it will bring more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social misgiving disorder, multiple personality, or even schizophrenia.
actually only an access to reach health --- face the pain. Face the pain of people undergoing from a digit of unexpected results obtained, they will finally become the life of the party of wealth.
Remember: shadow and light, are life's wealth.
one of the most important psychological law, no matter how painful, you are not flee. You can only go heroic face it, decide it, beyond it, and it reached a final accommodation. If you own a temporary lack of power, you can find help, find friends and relatives to assist, or seek vocational help, you confidence the human companion you to the face of these painful entities.
American psychologist, Rogers was the most lonely person, but when he resolved to face this fact and after he became a true main of interpersonal relationships; U.S. psychologist Frank has a brutal and drunkard stepfather and a wrong mama, but when he challenges the fact and ultimately from the heart to forgive his parents, he became an specialist in this space manipulation; Japanese psychologists Morita is Mazen is a solemn neurological muddle, but along challenging the facts and finally invented Morita therapy ... they lives in the most painful fact eventually become their most important funds. You can do the same.

(e) action fable --- crabs, owls and bats

crabs, owls and bats to go to cram school abuse. Few years later, they all graduated and received his PhD. However, the crab is still rampant, night owls are still slumbering in the day activities, bat still hung upside down.

psychological Comments] [It is even noted main
a fable, it's meaning is simple: operation important than knowledge.
used in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking.
shrieked profound knowledge of psychology. However, more even knowledge of psychology help a person does not automatically become more healthy. In fact, I know some people who studied psychology for many years, they learn psychology, one of the purposes is to rule themselves, but educated later so many years, their problem remains.
reason why this happens, a very important reason is that they do not personally, at present only the knowledge of knowledge, knowledge is not into their own life experience.
one of my friends like psychology, psychology has been more than those that are not emotional, not appropriate for school psychology. But the fact that this assumption is not correct. He is not sensitive enough, but he has a very big advantage: to know a good knowledge quickly in their own lives to do it. As a result, those far knowledge becomes a real life experience, he does not
If say, the quality of high sensitivity is a talent, then go-anywhere quality talent is more important.
This fable can also derive different meaning: Do not anticipate too secret sorcery of psychotherapy. The most important power is always in your own body, the mysteries of knowledge, the potential evolution of mysterious, dazzling success of science, etc., are distant minor to the power of your own body has been important. We secondhand to go outside to find the questions to others where to find the power, the results have forgotten the power in themselves.
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically retention you.
If the punch line of some Lianzhu touched you,Nike Shox Sko Norge, if some text or a current creed inspired you. So, these people's words and experience are just the beginning, more importantly, you think you really use a good knowledge of your own life to go. Jewish philosopher Martin Buber
these words, I have always thought the most important:
you must start. If you do not go in depth with a affirmative love life, if you do not go their own way to reveal the signification of life for themselves, then for you, life will remain meaningless.

(VI) to give up the fable:

bees and flowers wilted roses, the bees are still hard to suck, because it previously had from a flower in the suck sweet takes. But now in this little flower, the bees suck the venom.
bees know this, because the venom bitter, the taste is a big distinction with the before. Thus, bees anger, although, exhale on it the whole globe saw up to complain about, and why the taste changed? !
Finally one day, do not know why, bee vibrating its wings, flying a little higher. At this time, it found, withered roses around everywhere is the flowers.

psychological Comments] [
This is about the love fable, a young language preceptor is the true emotion.
some time, her disappointment in love, very painful, I always wanted to speak about, I hope I can give her some knowledge of psychology help. We have some time, but almost two months later, the total time they can not occur to get together.
last time about her, she said: Pain of lost love is still bothering her, let her trance, can not enjoy the beauty of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she noticed a little bee on flower nectar is. In that instant, her idea lightning camel seemed saying: only foolish, her words in the bee, of course refers to herself. This moment, she had to give up the truth out of sagacity. Previously, she wanted me to help her out, but in fact the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly.
not cozy to give up, give up, especially in love is pain. Because love is juvenile, when our copy of the parent-child relationship. Young children, no matter from which side, are inseparable from Mom and Dad. If a complete gainsay of his father and mother, and that manner necrosis for him, this is the final impair and panic. We have experienced hardly ever to be dad and mother no pain and fear, so when love --- of copies of the parent-child relationship once repeatedly we experience the pain and fear, our emotions can lightly become very bad.
However, compared to love and parent-child relationship, there is a big difference: a child, we can not, all parents have the final say; but now, we grow up, we have the power to choose their own fate. It can be said, childhood, we have no wings small bees, but now we have a pair of powerful wings.
However, while caught up in love, we will return to childhood, we can forget a couple of flying wings. And so we ourselves fulfil that, the love is no longer automatically duplicate parent-child relationship, we love to get free, have to give up power.
Remember: Love is two things, two entirely equal,Nike Shox Norge, independent personality of the person to do. You can work, but not that you worked hard on there will be results, because another person, you are not around.
So, no matter how much you care about a love, if another person determined to quit you, amuse esteem his alternative.
And also remember, you are no longer childhood, can only let the pain of torture. You have adults, you have a pair of mighty wings, you can fly out of a relationship has become poison.

(g) near fable: the unique Rose

Little Prince has a small planet, the planet of sudden bloom of a blooming rose. Previously, on this planet only a few anonymous flowers, the little prince had never seen such beautiful flowers, he fell in love with the rose, carefully nurtured her.
that fall butme time, he thought, this is a single flower on world, only he is the only planet, other places do not exist.
However, he came to Earth and base that there is a garden fair the same as 5000 of this flower. At this time, he knows that he only have an mediocre bloom.
the beginning, this finding, let the little prince was very sad. But in the end, the little prince to understand, even whereas the world has countless roses, but his planet tis is still unique because tis roses, he gushed over, took off her hood cover, with the screen protection over , in addition to her body of caterpillars, but also hear to the Yuan Yi and her claim to hear to her pacify ... ... In short, he tame her, and she tamed him, she is his unique roses.


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This is a psychological masterpiece, France
face of 5000 roses, the little prince said: But now we vacant the increasingly popular We are worried to have
. As if, for each has been a rose, the merit of their own lives Duoliaoyifen. Internet old, with several ten lover, is no longer too infrequent thing. But I know who these melodramatic, no one is empty. They do not enjoy the relationship, they just enjoy the conquest.
But once owned, they will speedily lose interest in this intimate relationship. the stronger the lust to conquer, the faster the loss. attractive.
However,Nike Shox TL1, the relationship between the United States, they are nearly the class of commitment and the tame level. When two people are indeed working into, certainly creature tamed, the relationship ambition chance a life nourishment, so that a person's life becomes extra filling and extra pretty.
However, no matter how intimate. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still the roses, they are still two individuals. Rose not to voyage whether the tiny prince, little prince or non-travel carry around the roses, they have to stick together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden.
Remember: either a close and mutually independent relationship, the relationship is better than one thousand general. This relationship will bring us a sense of isolation from the hopeless rescue, the most important in our lives is a salvation.
If you never seasoned, you can not understand the relationship of the United States.