We go online and look at men's profiles. If the picture is too dark or the guy has a group shot up there and we can't tell who is who, we pass.
We shoe shop. We like the red strappy sandals, but the heel is too high. We like like the heel height on the pumps, but it is wide and chunky and it reminds us that we feel wide and chunky; so we look for a skinny stilleto instead.
We like the boots, but we want something to go over our calves. And we want taupe and the ones we are looking at are beige. BEIGE!!!
We are suckers for packaging and names. When we get our mani/pedi we are asked to choose a color from the rack of dozens of nail polish colors. We not only look at the color, we look at the name of the color. Blue isn't blue. It is "Firefly" or "Blue My Mind." Red isn't red. It is "That's Berry Daring" or "Charged Up Cherry."
Yeah. Women are picky. We are hard wired that way. We also have better olfactory senses than men. This is part of the survival instinct. We have to be able to smell when food has gone bad and shouldn't be eaten. We poke, prod and sniff produce before we buy it. Generally, we don't wait for stuff in the fridge to start turning green and look like a science experiment before we toss it.
Thank God women are good at multitasking. We have a lot of information to sift through in order to have our frontal lobes make these all important executive decisions.
We use these decision making processes in all areas of our lives; even when it comes to looking for men.
Why? Because we are comparison shoppers. We prioritize. Remember those cans of soup and paper towels? In a nanosecond our brains determine where they stand in rank order.
First, second, third. Or pass.
Then again, I get emails from men and women here who tell me they have found their match and to please remove their account.
If the profile says nothing or very little or is illiterate, we pass.
So I know online dating works. And there is a lid for every pot. And I preach till I am blue in the face about the importance of what I call The Three P's: Profiles, Pictures and a Person's Presentation/Packaging. (After college, I had a stint in national advertising where I wrote copy, produced and directed print, radio and television commercials. The same principals apply whether the "product" is cosmetics, politicians or you.) Remember our lesson on how women comparison shop? Women look at the product, read the labels for as much info as they can get, are attracted by the presentation/packaging. There are millions of profiles online at any given time. You have to think of yourself as a "product" and you have to brand and advertise yourself in order to compete for attention. Sell your strengths. Minimize your shortcomings. Be positive. Take a personal inventory of yourself and take steps to improve your "product". If you expect someone to accept you "just the way you are" and you don't get responses, ask yourself if you are willing to accept someone just the way they are if they are not at all what you want.
If your picture looks like a mug shot, we will pass.
Women are natural shoppers. I think it is because we are hard wired from millions of years to be the gatherers. Men hunt. Women gather. Men hunt for a pair of shoes. Women gather many pairs of shoes.
I know this site has been successful at making happy matches and members email and thank me before they leave. I look at the profiles of the women who are happy with the men they meet and I look at the men's profiles. They are looking for the same things in each other and their profiles pretty well match up in that regard. Voila!
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Glittery things catch our eyes and we know about things such as cut, clarity and carat. We know the difference between white gold, sterling and platinum. Again, we are hard wired to pay attention to the details. If it isn't shiny, it must not be so good as the one that is shiny. Who cares if all that glitters is not gold? If you put some glitz in our nail polish, we will wear it and we will pass up on the whatever it is that is dull, lackluster and boring. There is something about shiny that excites activity in our brains and makes us want it. (That's why your talking about your souped up whatever it is under the hood of your car doesn't trip our trigger. We want to know what color it is.)
Then we go on to the paper towel section. We want two ply sheets and we look at the cost per sheet and determine among the many brands of paper towels which is the best buy. Then we look at the paper towel's decor. Do we want puppies, ducks or the one with the pretty colorful border on the side? We may not know which design we want until we find one that trips our trigger, but one thing is for darn sure: We don't want plain white paper towels. That's boring!
(Show me a man who has limited online success with women and I'll show you a man who hasn't taken the time to properly perform The Three P's: Profile, Pictures, Presentation/Packaging.)
We can shop in 5 stores in one day for an outfit and we can look at hundreds of things and ONLY ONE will jump out at us where we say,"This is the one!"
I wrote this article because I get a lot of emails from guys who want to know why they are not getting any attention from the women on this site. They lament they have been here for months with no response. I look at their profiles and pictures and I can fully understand why. Dark, blurry pictures, no welcoming friendly smiles and no info in the profile. I find the ones who gripe the most do the least to improve their chances of success. I suppose it is easier to criticize others than it is to take responsibility.
Don't even get me started on bathing suits. And if we are lingerie shopping and find the lace demi bra that fits and can't find the matching panties, we just give up and go home.
And then again, so do you.
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We make comparisons. We look at the ingredients, the calorie count, how many fat grams there are, how much sodium there is, how many grams of sugar there are. Then we take notice of how many ounces of product are in the can, how much the can of soup costs (after all, the more money we save, the more money we have to spend on...new shoes!). We do this for each brand of chicken soup on the shelf. We want the lowest calorie, highest ingredient, lowest fat and sodium and sugar content, biggest bang for our buck we can get.
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Wholesale Oakley Sunglasses, this is how it is. We are all competing with each other in order to get what we want. We may be on several dating sites and going out at night to places where we can meet men. We compare them, rank them, prioritize and categorize them and can meet dozens of men before one sparks attention in our brains to where we say,"This is the one!"
Women have shopping reduced to an art form; even a science. When we go to the grocery store, we are faced with half a dozen brands of chicken soup. How do we decide which brand to buy?
If the guy posts a goofy picture on his profile, we pass. The "ewww" factor is important to women.
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So, if your profile is less than articulate, we will pass (yes, women look at spelling and grammar. We are detail oriented.) Women love details and if your profile has no details or it says,"I'll tell you if you ask me," we'll pass. If we want LTR and your profile says Friends with Benefits, we pass. If you only have one picture and it is dark and we can't see your face, we will pass. If your height, education or any number of things does not match what's on our list, we pass. We want something that suits us.