Growth of fable

(A) the growth of fable: the growth of apple trees will never do a

an apple, and finally the outcome.
first year, which end up with 10 apples, 9 were taken away, that she was one. In reaction, angry apple trees, so from the off, in turn, refused to grow. The next year, which end up with five apples, 4 were taken away, they get one.
However, it can do: continue to grow. For instance, the second annual, which bring an end to ... with 100 fruit were taken away 90, namely she was 10.
presumable, it was taken away 99, that she was one. But it does not matter, it can continue to grow, the fruit of the third year-end 1000 ... ...
In fact, how many fruit is not the most important. The most important is that apple trees grow! So apple trees grow into towering trees, those who had hindered its growth will be languid enough to ignore the power. Really, do not worry so much about fruit growing is the most important.

psychological Comments] [you are not a meridian of the work has since broken family?
beginning work, you gifted, high-spirited, believing that But the reality presently hit you a few Sap, maybe, you make a big contribution for the element that no one seriously; may only get care but not the oral benefits; maybe ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their benefit only a small portion, and falls far short of your expectations.
So you petulant, you upset, you complaint ... ... In the end, if you determine not to make their own made to match their earnings. After the elapse few years, you have a self-examination and found that now you have no work, just a passion and artist.
But the elite is that you have stopped growing.
this article, around us everywhere.
reason for such blunders, because we forget that life is a excursion, as a whole, we feel that they have grown too, and now is the time of the fruit. We too care about the pros and cons of the moment, and forget the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of tearing off the meridians. We are prepared to give up act so, the road continues to grow.
Remember: If you are a working family, having not know management, management or mismanagement of brutal bosses or corporate civilization, then, to prompt ourselves about, do not because of pique and full of indignation and cutting off the meridians. No matter what, have to do an ever growing apple trees, because you will never grow important than how many money each month.

(b) the motives of the fable: the child in whom a team of children playing

frolic in front of an old, sounds and groaning. Over the past few days, the elderly unbearable.
So he came out to 25 cents for each child, said to them: cheerful day is still coming, as always frolic. Old people all over and give each child 15 cents. He unraveled that he had no income, only less to some. It likewise can be 15 cents, kid are still happily away.
third day, the elderly only 5 cents for each child.
children with rage,

psychological Comments] [you whom the .
were two types of motivation: internal motivation and external motivation. According to the internal motivation to doing, we are masters of their own. If we are pedaled by external motivation, we will be swayed by external factors, become its slaves.
In this fable, the old man of the calculation is simple, he will be the children's inner motivation ingredients, so it operated the children's action. Fables of the aged, a lot like your boss, employer? And cents, like not like your wages, premiums and other kinds of external rewards?
such as the external evaluation as a reference skeleton, our emotions can easily fluctuate. Because of external factors beyond our control, it is easy to deflect from our internal expectations, so we are not satisfied, we grumble. Dissatisfaction and grumbles and other negative sensations so that our pain, in order to reduce the pain, we had to decrease the internal expectations, the most common method is to dilute the work effort.
the formation of causative for the outer appraisal system, the most important cause is that parents like to control him. Parents too choose to use verbal awards and disciplines, material rewards and punishments and other control children, rather than to bypass the child's own motivation. Over time, the children have forgotten their original motivations, cares about what are the external appraisal. School, he forgot to study the original motivation --- curiosity and the joy of learning; work, work that he has forgotten the original motivation --- the joy of growth, the evaluation of superiors and income fluctuations into his work largest source of happiness and pain.
remember: external evaluation of the system is constantly a family history, but you can break it, by and by cultivating their own internal evaluation system, to study and work into a

(c) the intending of the fable: the piece of paper folded 51 times

Imagine your hands are a huge ample white. Now, your mission is to fold it 51 times. So, how tall it is?
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a skyscraper so high? No, too unfamiliar, the thickness more than the distance among Earth and the Sun.

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to now, I get inquired this a dozen people a fable, only two people said that this may be fewer than the height of an imaginary, meantime others think the most elevation is a skyscraper so high.
folded 51 times the height of such a gangster, but if it were not for the 51 white paper stacked together?
This contrast was frightful to many people. Because there is no direction, lack of planning in life, like the 51 white simple stacked together. Doing this today, morrow doing that, every time there is no interlock between efforts. As a result, even if each work is done very well, they have your whole life is nothing but a simple superposition.
lesson, life is more difficult than this fable. Some people, life finds a simple instruction and firmly to do so, they finally reached something else's life unattainable height. For example, a friend of my instruction in life is English, he spent more than a ten-year exertions, the sum of memories of the word only reached ten million and more, at this point to approach the mean person can not match the height.
some people, their direction in life is also very remove, for instance, start a company boss, so they absence a lot of capabilities --- skills, management skills, communication skills, decision-making skills, and so on. They may try doing this in the beginning, but try doing that, nobody of them are especially adept, but in the end, to open the corporation boss in this direction will be before these seemingly scattered to the integration effort together, which is a folding of complex life, rather than a simple superposition.
Remember: the power of visible more serviceable than the hidden force.
Now, the popular area to ascertain the respond from the unseen, such as latent development, such as the success of science, that our lives depend on a digit of marvels to be saved. However, in my attitude, Dongguan Heng Yuan Counseling Center counselor Maozheng Jiang said more correctly, lest the fables: cat flee the shadow of the cheats

, Tom and Toby found wherever there is brightness, they will see that they are mad for their own shadow.
However, Tom and Toby finally have found their own solution. Tom is always close their eyes. Toby is a course to always reside in the shadows of other things.

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mental note of this fable, a little mental problem is how to become more psychological problems.
can say that all psychological problems are narrated to the deformation of the facts. What facts? We effectively those suffering negative events.
Because painful experience, we do not want to face the negative events. However, once happened, such negate events preordained to be with us because life, we can do up to inhibit them but to work into the subconscious, which is the so-called forgotten.
However, their subconscious will still continue to melodrama a role. And even if we forget them even more powerful for the fact that, the pain related with these facts will still onset us, let us somehow sad, and can not be suppressed. This pain Let us beyond efforts to escape.
evolution to the end, the usual solution is to these two: either we favor the same feline Tom, completely misrepresenting their own experience of life in entire the important negative facts are ignored; either, we like cat concern than the same, simply connect their grief, their own everything were very bad, since anything is so bad, sorrowful that their most elemental event is not so painful.
Baiyun cerebral hospital consultant, said Li Ling, 99% of pill consumers had a painful experience. The reason they drugs, in array to make their escape the pain. It's like conceal in the shadows, the painful fact is that a monster, the devil in order to avoid this, simply to sell itself to a greater devil.
numerous alcoholic adults, they have had an alcoholic and abusive dad, and put the father's many torture. To forget the pain, they learn the same way. In adding to these visible
the erroneous way, we persons have invented a great many of sorts ways to escape suffering, Freud called these means of psychological defense mechanisms. Too painful, these defense mechanisms is necessary, but aggravate, if the distortion of the facts of psychological defense machinery is so intense,Nike Shox Turbo, it will send more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social nervousness disorder, multiple personality, or even schizophrenia.
really only one way to reach health --- face the pain. Face the pain of people suffering from a number of accidental results got, they will eventually become the life of the party of wealth.
Remember: shadow and light, are life's wealth.
one of the most important psychological statute, no matter how painful, you are not escape. You can only go brave face it, resolve it, beyond it, and it reached a final settlement. If you own a transient lack of power, you can find help, find friends and relatives to help, or quest professional help, you believe the person companion you to the face of these painful things.
American psychologist, Rogers was the most solitary human, but while he determined to face this fact and behind he became a true main of interpersonal relationships; U.S. psychologist Frank has a brutal and alcoholic stepfather and a wrong mama, but when he challenges the fact and ultimately from the center to forgive his parents, he became an adept in this district handling; Japanese psychologists Morita is Mazen is a serious neurological disorder, but at challenging the facts and finally contrived Morita therapy ... they lives in the most painful truth eventually chance their maximum important wealth. You can do the same.

(e) action fable --- crabs, owls and bats

crabs, owls and bats to go to cram educate abuse. Few years later, they all graduated and received his PhD. However, the crab is still rampant, night owls are still sleeping in the daytime activities, bat still hung upside down.

psychological Comments] [It is even famous main
a fable, it's meaning namely simple: operation important than perception.
used in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking.
called mysterious knowledge of psychology. However, more even knowledge of psychology help a person does not automatically become more healthy. In fact, I know some people who studied psychology for many years, they learn psychology, one of the purposes is to rule themselves, but learned after so many years, their problem remains.
reason why this happens, a very important reason is that they do not personally, even now only the knowledge of knowledge, knowledge is not into their own life experience.
one of my friends like psychology, psychology has been more than those that are not acute, not suitable for school psychology. But the fact that this presumption is not correct. He is not sensitive enough, but he has a very big advantage: to know a good knowledge immediately in their own lives to do it. As a result, those far knowledge becomes a real life experience, he does not
If say, the quality of high sensitivity is a talent, then go-anywhere quality talent is more important.
This fable can also derive another meaning: Do not anticipate too weird magic of psychotherapy. The most important power is always in your own body, the mysteries of knowledge, the potential development of weird, dazzling success of science, etc., are distant lesser to the power of your own body has been important. We accustom to go outside to find the answers to others where to find the power, the results have forgotten the power in themselves.
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically retention you.
If the punch line of some Lianzhu touched you, whether some txt alternatively a new creed inspired you. So, these people's words and experience are fair the beginning, extra importantly, you calculate you really use a agreeable knowledge of your own life to go. Jewish philosopher Martin Buber
these words, I have always considered the most important:
you must start. If you do not go in depth with a positive love life, if you do not go their own way to reveal the definition of life for themselves, then for you, life will remain insignificant.

(VI) to give up the fable:

bees and flowers wilted roses, the bees are still hard to suck, because it formerly had from a flower in the suck sweet takes. But now in this little flower, the bees suck the venom.
bees know this, because the venom bitter, the savor is a big inconsistency with the previous. Thus, bees anger, however, exhale on it the whole world looked up to complain about, and why the taste changed? !
Finally one day, do not know why, bee vibrating its wings, flying a little higher. At this time, it found, withered roses around everywhere is the flowers.

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This is about the love fable, a juvenile language preceptor is the true sentiment.
some time, her displeasure in love, very bitter, I forever ambitioned apt talk about, I hope I can give her some knowledge of psychology assist. We have some time, merely about 2 months afterward, the aggregate period they can not happen to get attach.
last time about her, she said: Pain of lost love is still bothering her, let her trance, can not enjoy the pulchritude of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she placarded a little bee on flower drink is. In that instant, her idea speedy camel arose saying: only fatuous, her words in the bee,Nike Shox R6, of course refers to herself. This moment, she had to give up the truth out of sagacity. Previously, she wanted me to help her out, but in fact the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly.
not easy to give up, give up, principally in love is pain. Because love is young, when our copy of the parent-child relationship. Young children, no matter from which side, are inseparable from Mom and Dad. If a complete disapproval of his father and mother, and that means necrosis for him, this is the ultimate impair and alarm. We have experienced hardly ever to be father and mother no pain and terror, so when love --- of copies of the parent-child relationship once repeatedly we experience the pain and fear, our emotions can easily become very bad.
However, compared to love and parent-child relationship, there is a huge difference: a child, we can not, all parents have the ultimate mention; but now, we grow up, we have the power to choose their own destiny. It can be said, childhood, we have no wings small bees, but now we have a pair of mighty wings.
However, when caught up in love, we ambition return to childhood, we can forget a pair of flying wings. And so we ourselves accomplish that, the love is not longer automatically duplicate parent-child relationship, we love to get free, must give up power.
Remember: Love is two asset, two completely equal, independent personality of the person to do. You can work, but not that you worked hard aboard there will be results, for dissimilar person, you are not around.
So,Nike Shox Menn, no matter how much you care about a love, if another person decided to depart you, amuse esteem his choice.
And also memorize, you are no longer childhood, can only let the pain of torture. You have adults, you have a pair of lusty wings,Nike Shox NZ, you can fly out of a relationship has become poison.

(g) near fable: the unique Rose

Little Prince has a small planet, the planet of sudden bloom of a blooming rose. Previously, on this planet only a few nameless flowers, the little prince had never looked such beauteous flowers, he fell in love with the rose, carefully nurtured her.
that for some time, he thought, this is a single flower on earth, only he is the only planet, other places do not exist.
However,Nike Shox OZ, he came to Earth and found that there is a garden just the same for 5000 of this flower. At this time, he knows that he merely have an mediocre flower.
the beginning, this breakthrough, let the little prince was very sad. But in the end, the little prince to understand, even whereas the world has innumerable roses, but his planet tis is still unique because tis roses, he gushed over, took off her hood cover, with the screen conservation over , in addition to her body of caterpillars, but also listen to the Yuan Yi and her claim to listen to her quiet ... ... In short, he tame her, and she tamed him, she is his unique roses.


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face of 5000 roses,Nike Shox NZ, the tiny prince said: But now we vacant the increasingly popular We are impatient to have
. As if, for every has been a rose, the merit of their own lives Duoliaoyifen. Internet old, with several ten sweetheart, is no longer too infrequent object. But I understand who these melodramatic, no an is empty. They do not enjoy the relationship, they just enjoy the conquest.
But once owned, they will quickly lose amuse in this intimate relationship. the stronger the desire to vanquish, the faster the loss. charming.
However, the relationship between the United States, they are almost the level of commitment and the obedient level. When two people are indeed going into, certainly being tamed, the relationship will become a life nutrition, so that a person's life becomes more filling and more beautiful.
However, no stuff how intimate. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still the roses, they are still two individuals. Rose not to travel if the little prince, little prince or non-travel carry around the roses, they have to stick together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden.
Remember: either a close and mutually independent relationship, the relationship is better than one thousand common. This relationship will bring us a sense of separation from the hopeless emancipate, the most important in our lives is a salvation.
If you never capable, you can not know the relationship of the United States.