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140091 2007 年 08 月 21 日 22:57 Reading (loading. ..) Comments (0) Category: Personal Diary
only with the integrity of a person's character to be successful. Of course, it was heresy to rely on trickery and the accumulation of great wealth, but such people generally do not have any good end. As the saying goes: From news reports in recent years, we can see a lot of corrupt officials should have been sanctions, I think this is the result of self-inflicted. Community in the 21st century society, with leadership talent will succeed. No leadership , the right to rely on conspiracy to deceive the people
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coach women shoes, all cast aside. Cultivate children deal with the plot trickery in this world, or fostering children's basic quality? It all depends on parental choice. To foster the children's basic qualities, it should be with the kids about law chapters.
First, the development of rules
not a few days after marriage, I begin to feel very embarrassed, because the kids at home without any rules. The children's father will not go to the academic, is to attend the seminar. Former foster children are, respectively, in another home, my heart only you, no brothers or sisters feelings, but do not know how to care for others. After living with us, just like the feeling of living with a few strangers. I am bringing up three children to decide to get married,
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Network famous sentence - Qzone log, I have not got a clue. So I started looking for ways
, plans to develop some Suddenly announced to the kids, After a some careful consideration, I decided when necessary, raised little by little.
First, I start from the question of food. Previously, in the preparation of meals, the children that everything, so I asked them to work together to prepare, and provides rules for dinner. Rules at the dinner table after he announced a bedtime and wake up the rules. Giving the children enough time to adapt, extend to their own rules and clean room, sorting clothes, cleaning the toilets in all aspects of daily living.
in the course of daily life, I let the children gradually understand the importance of developing the rules, teach them to get used to it than a lot of rules at once announced, it is easy for children to accept. Understand the truth of them, the children will consciously accept these rules to comply after. When they do not abide by the rules, I will take appropriate punitive measures.
through the development of the rules, you can make the children responsible for their actions and foster their self-discipline.
mother always wanted the kids to live, so in all aspects of children to shield. If you see someone criticize their children, some mothers even shouted: What will satisfy them, they thought that doing so is to give children freedom. Her mother grew up under the protection of children, thinking that everything is his world, when someone else more than yourself, just full of jealousy.
not kids any constraints, is to give them real freedom? In fact, freedom is relative, true freedom only in a life of moderation can be reflected.
think, in a society without any standards and regulations, as well as freedom to speak of it? The crime rate will soar, ordinary people are afraid to go out at night, without the rules will lose their freedom. Society we live with some degree of restraint is in order to maintain our current freedoms.
same is true of a family, the family is like a condensed community has its own norms and rules. If there are no rules, what the kids want to do, make the children's thoughts and actions become lax.
want to give kids real freedom, then they would have to develop appropriate rules. In this series of rules and let the children live freely. However, in the enjoyment of freedom, children must learn to be responsible for their actions. Mom, when in the development of family rules, to be distinguished from the general rules, it should be acceptable in the context of child development, children can not accept it if forced to comply with the children, the children will bring the invisible shackles, so that the children loss.
Second, do not easily change the rules
children to school period, no matter what happens, 21:00 to go to bed, which I made on the provisions of the kids go to bed. One day to go to bed time, Alice went timidly said to me: have a test, should take place during the day on homework. Why should we take the time to review it to sleep? quickly turn off the lights go back to sleep! shook his head. The next day, Alice went to the homework is not finished reviewing the exam.
I insisted that the children develop good habits of, because I know the kids, if you do not sleep well the next day class will fall asleep and not pay attention to lectures, but also reduce the immune system,
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may be argued that the child is to learn, it is necessary Forget about it? I do not think so. In the United States, students outside of school hours, there are plenty of free time to their disposal, the students have a lot of review time. I asked Alice what was in the free time, she could not answer.
the responsibility. Alice has always been a top student, in the absence of adequate review of the case go test, is the first time,
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course, if I let sleep take time to review Alice is also not a bad idea. However , this is tantamount to giving Alice a psychological excuse, perhaps before the next test will be in her spare time and friends to play, while the delayed review.
Fortunately, Alice no longer after this review the lessons and requirements as to stay up late too.
some mothers in the child when the first mistake, simply warning him that: very wrong. Because it makes children feel very confused, they will be thought to myself: Why is the attitude of the two different mothers it ? Why do I make the same mistake the first time can be lucky enough to escape to, and the second has to be reprimanded.
Over time, children will find provisions in addition to Fawaishien. Mother's mood is different from the rules are different, so not as a rule do not. In the child mind, would have no concept of the rule, only to try to figure out her mother's feelings, that depends on her mother's cue. Therefore, the development of the rules with your child , we must continue to maintain compliance.
let the child understand the importance of rules, it must resolutely implement the rules. Compliance is determined to lay the foundation for the foundation to help children.
Third, we must abide by the agreed time
living in Hawaii, Alice, Peter and Nancy's time is not the same school, we are always about a time, then I drove them home.
One day, I waited a long time, they did not appear. Through the window, I saw them and their friends are chatting. Am happy to chat, have forgotten the mother is still waiting for them.
communication was not so advanced now, no mobile phones, no Internet chat, the children did not chat with the always enough. However, at the appointed time every day with everyone back home is that we set rules.
I got out and walked in front of the children in a calm tone, said: a person under their three children drove home. From school to our house, if you walk, then a full 2 hours. Although I have kids so its a long way to go is also very worried, but I think this is their violation of the agreement and should be punished, not because of personal reasons while the destruction of the convention.
few days later, the children said to me: also must be observed. because the trust between family members need. However, I think the more family members, the more need to keep his appointment. Live together as a family, you need to connect with each other's trust, mutual trust is achieved through to keep its promise.
parents to fulfill the promise of children, so that the child will trust their parents. Children to comply with the commitment to parents, parents to believe children. If you do not keep its promise, there is no trust at all, so that the relationship between parents and children will be cracks, damage to family stability.
Fourth, learn to care for others
if not anything special, I usually go out when the subway, because both fast and save money.
in the subway,
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coach bags, sometimes dirty clothes next to people not even to say sorry. I often think, if this child's education, and the boy grow up what will become of it?
not only in the subway, in restaurants often happens in similar situations. Children yelling, running around to prevent others, parents without any means to stop the child they simply too busy to eat.
can see that these parents love their children very much, but why do they not think about how much inconvenience this will do to others? Children grow up and then what will become of it?
a person can not exist independently from the society, need to establish relationships with others, raising children's mother is in her mother's child is growing up in arms. Children who grow up in a greenhouse, it is hard to re-integrate into society. Children of their own interests, it is difficult to handle relations with others.
family is also a concentrated community, in fact, let the children realize that he is a member of society, and how to live in harmony with others is not difficult. Let the children learn to care for others, knowing that in addition to their common than many people living in this society. Thus, when the children in dealing with others, it is easy to establish a good relationship.
Fifth, to develop good language habits
through a person's speech, we can see the quality and status of this person. Advanced English in the United States and low points of English. Advanced English is used by people with knowledge of the language, English is in lower Manhattan, Harlem blacks inhabited the most commonly used. Low-level language is full of vulgar slang and curse of abuse.
in the US,
Absolute classic origami diagrams of various metho, high-level language and it is clear the distinction between low-level language, typically through the use of one language can be evaluated. Even knowledgeable scholars, if a low-level English, it will plummet to his evaluation. No matter what you have to, if not a good language habits, will be the quality of people think is a no man. The importance of the language used not only in the United States, any country in the world are the same.
But now Korean language and customs do? In recent years, Korean people talking, swearing everywhere. In the street, people are basically bad language at the beginning of the dialogue to end bad language.
not only men and women, and even kindergarten children are Mankouzanghua. I have been very worried about the children will learn these unspeakable profanity, but the adults swearing all day talk, how can we ensure that children do not learn?
Since ancient times, there is The language also has the same function, so that there are
a person's words, not only to reflect his level of knowledge, but also reflect his training and human. Another beautiful girl, and if a foul mouth, people will think she is a low quality of the people. A man of high learning and then,
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saying goes, Children start learning to speak the words heard when he will determine the language habits. Fostering children's self-cultivation, starting from the language used, preferably in the child just learning to talk the time to start.
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