This book is in October 1998, a month's time I write out of respiration. Recall that the dominating mood: Jinger (first wife) died of heart anguish also; just returned from the United States of NLP Diploma NLP University graduate class back eagerness; see the everyday newspapers, journals, television coverage, full of tragic stories , whether adults or the children comprised, the reasons behind all the parties in the process of growing children, not to establish a good mental health. At that time, I have amassed much experience in a number of professors NLP courses, but also privately preferred the cases of some psychological counseling. Students and by those who see the guide has improved, rejoicing, but also can not help but think about the basis occasions of their problems. A conclusion is the same: a child growing up, did not develop a good mental health.
and Jinger's family life, there are many pessimistic place. In the two and between the two with the kids, there are a lot of problems, mostly my responsibility. After 20 years of marriage in 1992, I adjoined the NLP, kas long asthe key to the solution, but a lot of things, whatsoever, it is yet also late. Reflect on my own source of the problem, the conclusion remains the same: in my children growing up, did not develop a good mental health.
I see: either NLP alternatively do I instruct how effective counseling are just a temporary solution only. Babies nativity today, 30 annuals after I still find learning NLP or counseling for him, unless the babe was growing up, to bring up a good mental health. Thought of this, the center of a power flowed, the result is that the child's book.
most of the parents, is doing its mind and strive for one goal: to make children grow up best. But, they often fail to look inward to hard work results, as they thought, speech and behavior, by the traditional culture, social status, he discussed the previous generation, etc., can only repeat elapse practices. Even if parents accomplish that there is a change necessary, it is difficult to find books or lessons to improve themselves.
there are still some parents do not even think I need to change. Appear unsuccessful for life, not happy, they are blaming outer factors: society, world, government,
GHD NZ, culture, fashion, work pressure, the World Wind (Kusakabe), the environment, other people, even establish a good mental health, that is, weakness in persona. Character of a person can not do without, because he needed a symbol to deal with every moment in life appears to do. But that is not to make the persona maintain that he has improved to make their own changes. Children always begin from a blank sheet. The main source of his learn is his parents, if parents have not changed, children will only inherit the same thought and behavior patterns.
this writing, there is not bookstore in the circumstance of consignment, even selling the 6000, truly startled me. This is indeed not for I jot well (I have a mini self-knowledge), yet for this wisdom is absolutely a top prerogative today's society; parents need to know and cozy to do some of the concepts and techniques. My second paperback, (NLP - help become more successful and happy life of knowledge) successfully into a bookstore, this parent-child book can likewise be a result of the wider mall exposure. I determined to behave a comprehensive amendment of the content. Mr Wilson Cheng joined illustrations to make the book glamor. I also thank Miss Chen Huiya Mr. Huang Guanchang re-layout and marketing go.
A lot of people's life, are much the impact of infancy. Every day children are value our attention, let us love with the right to treat our children.
NLP based parenting beliefs
1, the child is born, they love, confidence and obey their parents.
2, then the bad action of children is not for parents.
3, parents give their children love nothing another can substitute.
4, children proceed to learn, even when he was disturbed when they are the worst.
5, every child has made him a successful and happy life with all the needful capabilities, the parents equitable apt have this competence to help him loosen.
6, the child's intelligence and ability are normal, notwithstanding he did not care about what parents care about.
7, any act is not equivalent to the whole people.
8, there is always a better way, only to find that the parents willing to give.
9, parents of every child to grow the biggest determinant of results.
10, all of the correction of parent-child relationship, we must 1st comesintoseffect parents, some of the alterations.
Parents amuse remember:
appetite to be assorted children, parents must be in their thoughts, discourse, behavior and sensitive expression is another.
they are not prepared to change, but want to change the child's parents are not successful.
correct attitude of parents
for identity in the face of a child, parents should use the correct attitude to see at their identity:
(1) Parents not Superman, not faultless people, parents just mediocre people. Therefore, parents need to acknowledge their own:
· will win, will fail.
· the mood is nice, but also in a bad mood.
· than some clever than some people silly.
· ability in a digit of things, in some other feeble things.
· can not have anything you want.
· can not be wrong.
(2) parents and children have the same needs. Because either parents and children, so:
· parents want to be respected by others; children as well.
· parents want to be remedied fairly; children as well.
· parents want others to their variety, friendly; children as well.
· parents want to do well when somebody appreciates; children as well.
· parents want to do well, it was the understanding and encouragement; children as well.
· When misery, worry, reduced, when parents want to advocate friends and solace; children as well.
(3) parents of the child's parents is always, always give the child love and support. So:
· children succeed, parents share the joy.
· kids happy, parents feel happy.
· children continue to learn and progress, parents continue to be encouraged and appreciated.
· down pick back up each child, parents have to support it.
(4) parents with speech and behavior to achieve the above reason, so said and done the same:
· in front of babies, parents need not always right, successful, elated.
· parents are not terrified of the children acknowledge its mistakes.
· the face of the child, parents do not conceal the inner emotions.
· parents do not have to worry that their child will accordingly become vulnerable.
parents in a natural, easy way to show that he / she is such, is sufficient to bring an end to ... their life junket, the children will surely honest, confident and positive attitude to establish their lives .
ten basic tips for parent-child relationship
(a) no two folk are the same.
◎ No two people are absolutely persistent view of the same thing, so children of different views and you, nothing curious.
◎ kid must have some place better than you, and your lusty points, not all children have.
◎ everyone's beliefs, values and rules are different. So you can not query your child has a completely different character.
◎ respect other people's distinctions, people will respect their matchless place. You can accept the child's different, he will accept your attitude of him.
◎ person in a stuff can not be supposed in the other person will have the same results. So your experience is a reference to the child, but does not necessarily guarantee that the law is right or possible.
(b) a person can not control different person
◎ one can not change another person. Change themselves, their children will likely make the applicable changes.
◎ a person can not Therefore,
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(c) The signification of communication depends on the other side's response
◎ what namely not said to myself, what is momentous to listen each other. always accented namely he did not mention how the correct use, the child receives a message meant as him what was important.
◎ heard by the child to understand, to accept the language of talking to him will have the greatest effect.
◎ words have no effect controlled along the spokesman, the listener decide. the child's reaction narrate you to say no effect,
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◎ way to change that, have a opportunity to change the listening results. no effect argument, the more that child will be more do not accept the results worse.
(d) the child is to follow the parent's behavior and emotions, and not the parents instructions
◎ parents in dealing with the behavior of one thing, the children saw, the next times will follow suit.
◎ children watch their parents when faced with a position reacts, it will speculation that it is correct. and the same thing in their face will make the same response.
◎ speech or prose their own child's body and idea can not produce a learning effect in behavioral or emotional responses. so little efficacy teaching manner punishment.
◎ parent's directions, whether children do not understand the language prototype with the issue, will so that the child is difficult to follow. must first consider the child would not understand, it fixes the opening.
(e) All acts must have its positive motivation
◎ everyone to meet their inner Some need to do asset. all deeds of the child has its assured significance, but he does not know can not say.
◎ parents need to divide the child's behavior and motivation. the nature of children's behavior is wrong or ineffective We should be denied, but the children always try to attempt to upgrade their knowledge and ability, we must be sure that his motivation for this.
◎ discovered that the child's positive motivation after the act, to be sure, in guiding children to find another more effective approximate, this is the easiest way to accept your child.
◎ feeling and motivation are not wrong, but the choice of approach failed to fulfill the desired results. emotional strength or the way of the child, the child would like to maintain motivation improve the heart, to help children to nail effective practice is the responsibility of the parents.
(f) a better access, everyone ambition follow
◎ refused to change because never find a better methods. children must understand that their method is more effective, he would accept, and thus change.
◎ permit a person to another way to make him understand more, and price fewer, that people naturally using that method. children are like everyone, continue to work on this point.
◎ better approach is to help, that is, more choices to each other; specify a method must be secondhand, but it is an attempt to treatment of each other. all are greet to help resist manipulation. your children are also welcome your help, but will resist your control.
(g) There should always be at fewest three solutions so far
◎ not successful, just that the methods used even now has not been the expected results. of the child must cling to the results, preferably than insisting on methods.
◎ only trust there is an effective method known, will have the chance to find it and make things change.
◎ on one thing we know way speed up, we do take up the greater; for children, too, the more you select, your child achieve the results you want, the more likely Great.
(h) the growth process is a learning process
◎ children to try different approaches, is to go to find the best one.
◎ happens in children from learning, so he knows how to handle with future experience the same thing.
◎ children to keep trying fashionable methods in array to know which an is best.
◎ curious about the child's life, it is to learn how to clutch more.
(IX) should help children to grow up and not substitute children grow
◎ anyone offer to replace children grow up, will finally be made in the negative effects of the child's body. Children can not learn, dependence and lack of trust will be.
◎ parents ashore benefit of the children to do the things kids do not obtain the respect of the child. dependent children love their parents would complain and detect fault.
◎ encourage and adviser the children to do their own thing , is the most effective way to help children grow. so that the child can have the ability to grow and can take care of themselves.
◎ child's spontaneous, positive attitude, self-discipline, are related with this point because they need from the to do their own thing source. so the child must have no doubt that this love.
◎ The language of love, if the parents have shown with the conditions, then the child will have the tall degree of parent-child relationship in doubt. because of this love , parent-child relationship is the basis and pillar.
◎ If this love to do someone because the child lost the case, the child will become scale up do not care about it,
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◎ parents if their children out conditions to this love as a bargaining chip, the children will be the future of the parents love the most chips. today's society,
GHD Blue Butterfly 2011, numerous parent-child relationship entirely broken, it is for this cause. order chief concepts of a part, the parents as the correct opinion for the second, ten basic tips for parent-child relationship 3, four ideal home environment, on the growth and the need to teach a child head development Second, the five stages of mental development children three, four elderly 0 to 6, 6 to 12 years old five six-over 12, how to help children establish self-worth 7 children 10 to 12-year-old fourth chapter deals with changes in emotional skills the child of a preamble, commute type II, Type III punishment, cold type four, five didactic type, EQ type VI, EQ type Seven deal with child emotional skills, parent-child Case Discussion Chapter emotional teaching of a household of elementary tips in EQ II, what is emotional comprehension (EQ) Third,
GHD Carry Case & Heat Mat, how to help children develop ample EQ four, and five preference things destroy, and others to determine among Six clash, liability VII, to help children establish self-confidence, self-love and self-esteem Chapter VI good and effective introduction of a parent-child relationship capabilities, the correct gratitude of the child's method two, attach with the children's activities (premier period) Third, to amend communication between parents and four children should not listen to the kids and how to do 6 repeated orders not to help the children to listen to the words of parents, 7, eight rules for how to keep children, training parents to disburse attention to the good behavior of 9 children, pay consideration to the activities of ten children like , parent-child relationship first help kit - Why do not you favor to learn three, children's learning - the left brain and right brain Fourth, the child's school - five competitive mentality, three inside the six-sensory ability to learn how to improve the learning ability of children 7 or 8 children go to educate , nine martyrs of the education system, the different beliefs of ten children's education, to meet the challenges of Chapter VIII of the Elimination of the psychological pressure of parents in the kin of general belief and shared merits second, breaking the vicious surround of three, four to take the guide in a bad mood, relieve traction five six other effective methods of decompression, the decompression method is ineffective on the marital problems of Chapter IX of the parents of the proposed introduction of a marriage the parents of two have by far broken, parents have separated or divorced three, four unattached parents in necrosis of the mate, children and daughter's letter to the Appendix
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